I've been posting in recovery because that's where I thought my H and I were. I'm here now because I'm struggling with what to do.

At the time I decided to go to MC, I told H that I needed to know the whole truth about the A. About 3 - 4 weeks after d-day (and NC with OW) he said he was ready to tell me everything.

I found out this week after notifying OWH that my H did not tell me everything. H still claims that he told the truth in spite of discussing two things so far that he left out of story. Claims he left them out because I did not ask the right question and he did not want to hurt me any more than he already had.

MC stopped, asked him to move out on Wednesday so I could decide what I wanted to do. I said complete honesty about A was necessary for me to stay in MC and work on our M, our counselor said at our very first session that she will not tolerate being lied to and if that happens, MC or IC is done. So MC is on hold, H still saying he told me the truth, and I'm still thinking about what I want to do.

Any suggestions on what to do next? We've been talking...it's hard not to since we work for the same company. I'm finding out that H has been dishonest for most of our marriage...keeping secrets, hiding feelings, anger, resentment, etc. I will not try to continue MC unless we start at a point of him being honest. I won't settle for a marriage without honesty. Do I simply make this statement and leave it up to H? If yes, we work on M, if no we divorce.

Any suggestions? I feel like I'm just hanging here. Do I need some kind of Plan B?

Background - My Ugly Story in Just Found Out and Found out WH still lying after simply notifying OWH of A in Recovery.

How terribly, horribly sad.
You have to have COMPLETE honesty. If he lies during recovery how could you EVER trust him again?
I suppose Plan B is an option. If not, theonly thing left is Plan D. The choice about whether this marriage will work is entirely his.
I hope bumping your post up will get more experienced MBers to post here!

Plan D? Meaning divorce?

H is still staying at a friend's house. We did get together a couple of times over the weekend to talk. One talk turned into a disaster but the other talk was good. As soon as I turn the discussion to A and try to explain how important it is for me to hear the truth from him and not OWH, he gets mad and says that he just wants to run away. He says he feels sick to his stomach and feels so ashamed. I told him that I understood all that (since reading SAA, HNHN and NJF's) but it has to be done.

Nothing yet. It seems that keeping the A from me is more important than working on our M.

Yes, Plan D is divorce.
There MUST be total honesty for your marriage to work. He knows he's hurt you, is ashamed (maybe) and doesn't want to be called on his stuff. He has to be willing to own up to what he's done to you, the M, and the family. He has to be willing to do EVERYTHING to make things right. But honesty is the FIRST requirement.

C'mon veteran MBers! I'm a newbie here. She needs some expert opinions!