I originally posted this on the Pregnancy/OC board. He came back on the 15th and is trying to get back into the old routine of coming over in the mornings and helping get the kids up and to school, have coffee, take a shower and then after school hang out till about 7:00 and then leave. The first night back he asked to spend the night. I allowed 7 yr old D was so happy to have him spend the night in her room. He came into my (our old) room later and we talked for a while. It was a good night. The ever since then he has spent the night elsewhere. Her house was one of them, so he could see OC. He is more concerned about her than our children. It kills me. Since he got back he has left his stuff with me. I went thru a spiral he left and found out that OW went to Calif with OC to see him. I confronted him and he stated yes but that it didn't count since she pd, not him. I told him it didn't matter who pd and it did count. He didn't want me to file before he got back and he wants me to keep the joint accts...but then this???!!! I am so confused. He told me last night after I told him how much it hurt me, that he didn't think I would find out. I can't Plan A anymore. I hurt too much at this point and am too tired. I had a good summer on my own (sort of). Are there copies of a good Plan B letter?

Can you move your post to GQII? There are Plan B sample letters and the originators tend to post there.

L.

Actually I have decided this is it. It has been 4 long years. He came back and has spent the majority of his time with her. He is living with her, driving her car...putting his child with her to sleep. He picks up our youngest child and sees our kids approx 1-2 hrs per day. I will not let the girls stay over at her house. They do not want to. All the family now knows she went to Calif to see him and that he is living with her. He is very depressed now. He was to come back with money, a grip on our situation and restart the restaurant. The last check from Calif has bounced, I found out about her going, his and my family know all about her going and where he is staying. He does not have the resources to open the restaurant again and we may have to sell it and he may have to get a job, which will limit any time he spends with the kids, but he may be able to pay CS. He burned all his bridges with family for help. I have tt his parents and they have always backed me, along with my parents and they are going to assist me financially, till I sell the house. We do still have to tt the IRS. I still love him and he knows that, but I am not taking anymore of this. He couldn't pay CS, so OW pd MY electric bill. At first I was upset but now I don't care. His mother told me she wished I had been ready to do this 2 yrs ago, but knew I had to wait till I was ready. His brother would like me to file CS against him and her. I am going to start filing tomorrow. I feel like not only is there a light at the end of the tunnel, but that I am walking out of the tunnel. I know it is not anywhere near over with, but I can enjoy life again.