My wife & I are going through separation shortly (i.e. Plan B) as soon as the practicalities are worked out regarding housing etc.

We have a 5 yr old daughter and a business together (which I'm not involved with on a daily basis but usually weekly) which she runs. Of course, the OM is around doing his thing, she's confused, in the fog, can't make a decision, doesn't know what she wants, can't break it off etc. We have been attending MC for this period, but I feel that Plan B is the only way to move forward.

It's been 4 weeks since discovery.

In addition we are travelling to Europe for Xmas / NY - this is a long planned trip to see her family and for my daughter to experience Xmas with the in-laws, of which I really support. The tickets have already been paid for. In fact I really want to go and get out of my city for a while. We'll be together for 3 weeks over this period with her leaving end-Nov, 12 days earlier than me.

Any advice, taking into account how inter-twined our daily lives are, how the NC concept can work?

<small>[ September 29, 2003, 06:29 PM: Message edited by: Ziggy ]</small>

ziggy,

During these kinds of times, Nov is a long ways off. Take it 1 week at a time. If you implement plan B now, it may have a different look by November. Don't sweat it. Just plan to go and be there for your daughter.

L.