Hello to all the bravehearts on these boards!

I've been lurking here for months and doing a sometimes successful Plan A lately. I say sometimes because though I've seen a few glimpses of the man I used to know, it seems he retreats back into the fog as soon as he realizes he was in danger of feeling anything other than his usual cold denial. You won't be surprised to hear he's most human with me when he and OW are having problems and then he gets angry and backs off when they make up again.

I'm thinking of going to Plan B but I'm scared. I don't want to give him any more excuses to point his finger and accuse me of being a #itch. He's not a "chaser" by any means--I KNOW he won't come after me so I worry by writing a Plan B letter, I'll just send him further into her corner. I'm even thinking she might clue him into this technique as she tried to save her own marriage a couple of yrs ago.

I'd like to hear what reactions everyone had to their own Plan B. Anger? Indifference? How long before you know it's time to give up?

Thanks to all those brave posters who have taught me so much over the past year!

Jaz
betrayed
I am 48, WH is 58
13 years married, 1 child
D-day was 8-02
His PA with divorced OW began 7-02
no other affairs
We're seperated, divorce filed by WS and counterfiled by me but no one's moving on it.
I've been following MB & Divorce Busters with my own screw-ups in the mix
Had a good marriage but last 2 yrs were stressful due to other circumstances--think WS is in mid-life crisis and OP is possibly a the "exit affair"