I'm at a loss for what to do...I left WS 1+yr ago (see bio). Since then he's contiued to see a different OW. This is the confusing part...I got involved in a revenge A, I wasn't happy and missed him, but he was continuing his, so I figured what the heck. Selfish, I know!

Beach, after a year of him with several other women who he impregnated?, why not just get a divorce?.

Even though you dated/became involved, you are human, I cant repeat that enough, we DO make mistakes.

I have not had relations with my W for 5 mos., believe me, the urge is there, but mentally I am in no shape to engage myself with someone else as much as I would like to.

We still have EN's that are going unfilled, totally, while the waywards seem to get on with their fantasy lives, life is not fair, no one said it would be.

At times I wonder to myself what would happen if I did meet someone I was attracted to on ALL levels. I miss the intimacy of a relationship, as I am sure you do, and I think, I am not getting any younger and how long do I have to wait for my W to pull her pants up and come home, if ever, then I also ask myself, at this point would I want her back.

If faced with the prospect of a sincere relationship, I would be challenged not to go for it, but as of yet, I have not.

Hang in there and take care.

Da Rookie

As much as it may hurt you to hear this, MOST OM's enjoy tasting 'the fruit of another' (even if the other spouse is gone and living a separate life) and have no intention of staying around once the woman is single and demanding more in the form of committment. Keep this in mind and you will not suffer another betrayal.