I'm 23 and married two years to a one time college and now professional athlete. In the last two years we have had major issue about his habits regarding other women. It started with verbal flirting, then phone numbers,email classifieds, phone calls, and the last thing was him actually trying to talk to a women as in them leading to a boyfriend girlfriend relationship. We talked and each time I forgave just asking him to be honest with me. And each time something worse happened later on down the line. I do love him and we have a daughter together. But I'm to the point where I want to ask him to wear a condom during intercourse and I am thinking of having him followed. Needless to say I am on an emotional noose and my love bank is beginning to come up empty. Somebody please tell me something I don't know or have not already tried.

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Now, this is a new one.<P>I've often said that when a woman marries a pro athlete, putting up with this is part of the package. <P>Pleased to meet you, Alienated -- a Real Person, not a theoretical.<P>I can't relate personally to your problem, but I suspect that this is something you're always going to have to deal with, unless your H has very strong moral values in favor of fidelity combined with an equally strong sense of self-discipline. Because there are a lot of groupies out there; a lot of temptations, and life on the road.<P>I agree with TnT about Plan A...it's really your only choice. Is your H a Big Name? If so, that makes it harder. Celebrity culture is different from the way the rest of us live. Stay with this site for support. Get counseling if you need it. Keep your own needs in mind. You are entitled to have him treasure you. He is no better than you do just because he's an athlete.