Well today is the start of my Plan B. My story 101 style:
WW in EA/PA for last 2 months
D-Day 6 weeks ago
Plan A for 5-6 weeks
1 month of counselling
No committment from WW to have NC with OM
OM still around
5 year old daughter
Yesterday my WW said that she almost stopped moving her things (she's staying with friends for 3 weeks before moving into a new apartment) to call me and tell me that she wanted to try again (so of course I asked her why she didn't, she said that she just needs the space....hmmmmmm..sure).
Last night she said that this wasn't the end of us, just that she needed space (again, same phrase!).
She also said that her relationship with the OM is not girlfriend/boyfriend and that there has been no "physical" contact for the last 6 weeks She expressed doubts about him and his honesty towards her. Go figure, he's the biggest liar I've met and a master manipulator.
This morning she called to say a last goodbye and that she feels we will get back together. She asked that friends that still don't know what's going on not be told the whole truth as it may all be academic in the future (I suspect she doesn't want people to be judgemental of her, as they will). I'm progressively telling people the whole sordid story anyway.
She'll be out of the country on a long planned trip to visit family in Europe all of December. I'll be with her and my daughter for 3 weeks. She asked if it would be OK if she stayed January also. Fine by me, out of the grips of the OM. A positive sign?
Are these signs that she's waking up due to the reality of the situation or is she just starting to miss the comforts of home? I showed her a draft separation agreement 2 days ago which also freaked her out.
