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Joined: Oct 2003
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Hey folks
The love bank is running low and I'm feeling emotionally drained. There's just nothing left to give. Plan A was only 3 wks but that's all I can take. W continues to pursue OM, barely communicates with me at all, stays with friends, and busies herself so she doesn't have to think about the M or A or talk to me. We see each other so little that I have little opportunity to meet her EN's.
The MC talked about a separation for her "to find herself", seems like the same as Plan B. Anyone with experience in separations? I need some Plan B example letters or links to them if anyone has them around.
Thanks
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Joined: Jun 2003
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Yes, I am interested in the same sort of info.
It would help if there were some sample letters for us to follow or a list of do's & don't's for writing a Plan B letter. I know it is supposed to be brief and to the point and my attempts to write one so far kept getting carried away. I have seen some tips in the messages here and reviews of letters people were thinking of sending. That did help some. But it's hard to find them again and I don't have much computer time most days. Maybe if we started a thread of all those collected examples & critiques for quick reference?
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Joined: Sep 2003
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Rollercoaster, I know what you mean about being emotionally worn out. I don't know how to avoid that but it does get easier (at least at times) and Plan B is supposed to help us get off the rollercoaster. I remember the impatience I felt at first to just get through to my WH. Everyone advises patience, patience which is the toughest of tasks in the early days. But 3 weeks isn't much time for Plan A and you want to be sure you've planted the seeds of a good one before going to B.
Personally, my first efforts at Plan A weren't good ones - took awhile before I had detached enough to have control of myself and think before I acted. It's much easier now. You may want to think about detach somewhat and avoiding confrontations without going to a full B yet.
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