I FOUND OUT THAT MY FIANCE (boyfriend at the time) was having an affair with a married woman who he said was a friend that would call at any time during the day and night.

Anyway to give a little history in the past I made the mistake of seeing other people for a short while and my fiance knew about it. We didn't see each other for a while but then we started seeing each other again.

I didn't know that during the time that I was not treating him as I should've this woman came on the scene. But this was some time ago.

He failed to tell me. However when we recommitted to each other I put aside seeing anyone but him, but he continued to see her. About 2 and a hlf months ago I approached him about it and I told him if he wanted to be with me he must stop contact with her. He decided that he would.

I came to find out that he was lying he was still talking to her. The thing is she and I have had an argument and a face to face altercation with her actually following me home from the store one day and I had to call the cops on her. SHe has been told not to call though the calls have decreased she still does.

Because my fiance told her all our business she has approached me as if I should be ashamed for having not been there for him and she has done me a favor. Trying to root her out is like trying to root out a tree because he keeps talking to her though recently he has not talked to her for 5 days now. But I don't know if he is strong enough to stop talking to her and I'm getting weary of working with him on this because he has to do it. Is there any help out there anyone faced this sort of thing before?

Based on what you've explained, I'd end it now rather than get married and likely regret it later.

CTW,

I have experienced something similar. There are OWs who think it is their 'civil duty' to have an A w/anyone then think they are doing the BS a favor. Go figure.

This OW is nuts. I know one who told a judge that she was trying for 3 years to send the WS back to his family. Let's see, as the W, I failed to see her 'efforts'. Why? Because I had e-mails, phone calls and voicemails to the contrary.

Get as far away from your BF and the OW as possible. He needs to see if he is willing to ruin his life. You don't need to be a part of that downhill path. Can you remove yourself from this destructive path?

L.

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