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If only talking on phone is the A over-should other BS be contacted
#469709 12/04/03 11:20 AM
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If BS is recieving hesitancy and resistance from WS to cease C even by phone should this contact be seen as a continuance of the A, especially if a NC letter has not been sent?

Also should the BS still make plans to C Other BS.

If the OP seems to be laying low on C WS, but the WS has previously promised no more contact to only break their promise, but hasn't given a NC letter and isn't agreeing to terms for recovery should the BS continue to try to end the A by C family, what have you? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
Re: If only talking on phone is the A over-should other BS be contacted
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Morning Free,

ANY contact in any form is a continuance of the A, it has to be a clean cut from the other party and no contact what-so-ever before it is considered no contact.

Putting the A in the open is also part of plan A, if this has not been done the secrecy of the A is still intact.

Have your WS draw up the letter of NC with you present and make sure it is delivered.

Good luck, Take care

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Re: If only talking on phone is the A over-should other BS be contacted
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freetobe,

For recovery this must happen:

1. NC w/ OW
2. Ammends you by open and honest about time, $ and any attempt C from OW.
3. Pass the withdrawal stage
4. Working on R in M

Otherwise you are still in plan A <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> .

-rh-
Re: If only talking on phone is the A over-should other BS be contacted
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ANY contact is continuing of the A.

Tell the OP's spouse in any case - you'd want to know, wouldn't you?

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