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WH slipped and said he loved me
#469905 12/29/03 08:40 PM
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My WH slipped this morning and twice said I love you girls to me and D. I acted like I didn't notice. We also went to church together yesterday as a family. It was nice. He did come by and stayed about an hour and talked. GAve me a one armed hug. I think Plan A is working. He told me OW hadn't called him since Friday.
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Good job ... but you have to keep it in mind that when and if the time come, you have to plan B. Do a clean plan A for a period of time and then re-evaluate before making decision to do plan B.

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Hmmm.I wouldn't read too much into the "I love you's" just yet.My WH has said that too here and there and although it sounds hopeful....he is STILL contacting OW.

I would just let those words roll off my back like oil until they actually mean something,not sure if it does for your situation.

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Thanks for the reminder. Just found it curious, honestly, more than hopeful.

He has been hinting that he would like me to join his family for New Year's Eve. She I say yes? Youngest D will be there.
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Do what you feel in your heart.I turned my Wh down twice to go to Thanksgiving and then another gathering at his family's home because I just couldn't go through with it and pretend everything is just swell.

My in-laws understood perfectly.It also gave my WH a taste of what it would be like if we get divorced.No more happy gatherings with him there and me in the same room.

My kids were a bit disappointed too but I explained to them why I wasn't going this time.

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