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My wife,Cindy, is moving out today. She still says that she just doesn't love me like she used to and that she doesn't know if she wants to work things out. Yet, she doesn't want a divorce and she wants to go through counseling. Please pray for us and our marriage, because I know that I will need all the help I can get to save my marriage.
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Dale16 -- I am afraid that I don't know much about your story. I haven't been around much due to a new job.<P>After reading your profile as well as this thread, I think that you are going to be in for a hard fight. Working on rebuilding a marriage is tremndously difficult under the best of conditions. When one spouse (usually the betraying spouse) leaves the marriage home, it makes things so much more difficult for the marriage. It also gives them a much better opportunity to continue their affair.<P>Please be sure that you have read everything on this site. Some things you may want to print out and give to your W. If she is really open to rebuilding your marriage, you might want to consider inviting her here to this forum. Also, if in fact your W wants to get into counselling. . .GO with her, go by yourself for that matter as well.<P>Continue coming here. Use us as your sounding board. Rant rave, vent to your hearts content here, so that when you do have contact with your W, she sees nothing but the love you feel. I will be praying for you.<P>God Bless
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Dale, I'm kind of the unfortunate poster spouse of repeated separations. One thing, it isn't always the end of the marriage, it does make working on the marriage more difficult.<P>Do read the Harley materials. Other good books:<P>Divorce busting by Weiner-Davis<BR>Hope for the separated by Chapman<BR>Women in Midi-Life Crisis by Conway<BR>How to get your lover back by Harris<P>All of these give good ideas on how to carry out the Plan A from here. Plan A is quite possible while separated if your spouse will agree to see you or take your calls.<P>NO lovebusters, and although I'm a big cryer myself, there are very few times where it has helped.<P>Cindy not wanting a divorce and being willing to go to counseling are both really good signs that her mind is not made up to leave the marriage.<P>You can do this.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Do not get tired of doing what is right, for after awhile you will reap a harvest of blessings if you do not get discouraged and give up. (Gal 6:9)<P><BR>
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