Hi guys! Have been AWOL for a while over the holidays and dealing with a lot as usual.....my WH continued to lie and lie and lie...and then one day I got a pin number to a credit card account that I did not even have! When i told him he said of course he knew nothing about it....and then when I asked him to print our credit report he came home without it! (he works at a bank) So of course I had to do some of my own searching ....did and online search of my credit and then his...and then called the credit card company and since I knew enough info they comfirmed my biggest fears.. an account in his name billed to OW address!!! He now tells me that he gave her the card to pay off her debts from after her divorce and it is no different than when he loaned me money before we were married....HELLO!!!!! He was not married to someone else when he gave me some money before we were married!!! This was one of my last straws so to speak.

There have also been issues with him and my YD...on Christmas while I was at work she overflowed the toilet on the second floor of our house and it rained potty water all the way to the basement while he slept on the couch. Then he had her so upset about it that she refused to go to the bathroom for 4 days despite laxitives and stool softeners.....we ended up having terrible trouble for almost a whole week and we still are struggling with it at times.

After the incident with my daughter my lawyer told me to get a restraining order......I was afraid it would just get ugly so I packed his belongings in West Virginia luggage (garbage bags) and had it all waiting for him when he got home from work. I had left the kids with my mom and had explained it all to them as gently as possible before it happened. He was actually pretty calm about it. Until he was getting ready to leave...then he said a few hurtful things ont he way out. It has been since 12/29.

He says that even the positive changes I have made all this time were irritating to him. He says he doesn't want to fight....he just wants to divorce and try to keep as much of a close relationship with the kids as he can...

It is good to see him hurting for a change. He has obviously not been sleeping and I have actually seen him cry!!! That is sad that it should thrill me so much...I really think that reality has set in that there are severe consequences to what he has done and I will not put up with it any more!

I am feeling better some days than others. Just wanted to check in and let you know what was going on... I feel like I should move to Divorced/divorcing.....

Hi sho,

I am dealing with a WH that has been continually lying too.I keep catching him and he has an excuse each time.Like just recently,WH told me that the OW said she would not be involved with my WH unless he gets divorced,well now there is a $430 plane ticket on his AMex bill just so he can go spend the weekend for that homewreckers 30th birthday.How nice!

I too may be on the D/D board soon.I just am having trouble not giving up.It is tough lately.Eveytime something like this comes up,I want to run to my lawyer but I don't want to D just yet and let the homewrecker "win".I keep thinking,I'll let the WH do all the work if he wants and let him have that on his conscience.

Your poor daughter.You know,that is the worst,that the kids are so affected by the WS behavior but they just don't even care.It's all about THEM.

I wish my WH would have more moments of reality like when he called the other day crying that he was making a huge mistake.But it doesn't last,he goes right back into selfish celf sentered mode. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

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