Well it`s been 5 months since DDay for me. Been in plan A since I found this site and discovered EN`s. About 4 months I guess. Never knew there was such a thing as a EN much less how to meet it my entire life. What I realised today is that I have not only been meeting my FWW EN`s. But I`ve been doing this with everyone I know without knowing I was doing it. My kids, my extended family, her extended family,people I work with. I`m doing this effortlessly, its becoming a big part of who I am. Its changed me profoundly. I notice things I never noticed before when having a conversation with anyone.Its like I feel their pain, I feel their happiness. Any one else experience this?
Anyway I thought I`d share how plan A has gone for me. The only LBing I have done is me threating the OM and now I`m not sure that was a LB, but I do know that it injected severe conflict into their relationship LOL. This has to do with my W admitting to a PA then latter recanting that, says she never slept with him. It was all just a fantasy they just had phone and e-mail sex until they both divorced and could be together legitimatly. I asked her If that was true why did she admit to a PA in the first place. Her answer was because that she thought that would drive me away and she was amazed that instead I turned and started to fight for her.
A brief overview of plan A the last 4 months.
Week one, W asks asks who I am. I tell her this is the new me, she says it won`t last.
Week three, W says I don`t know who you are, but i think i like the new you.
Week four, W sends OM an e-card thats says I love you, I miss you. I say to her, you know I was checking your e-mail did you want me to see this? She says maybe she did, didn`t really know why she sent it. This turns into a deep conversation about how she dosen`t know what she wants, dosen`t know when she will know ect. Talks about how we haven`t had any fun or laughed together for years.
Week five, I add "FUN" to the EN list and put it to the top.
Week six, everything is now fun, I try to find humor in everything, and to my amazment I do. Some of it was fairly stupid i`m sure. W starts to say ILY and kiss me on the lips instead of turning her cheek.
Week seven, OM phone number is on my W redial on her phone. I ask her what is going on, to explain herself. She recants the PA says it was all just a fantacy about phone sex and e-mail sex about what they were going to do. Says they just had lunch to end their friendship. I Told her that every time she contacts OM she hurts me, her kids and both extented families even if no one ever knows about it. She says she will "try" to stop all contact.
Week eight, everything is fun again. Dating the W is in full swing. We are spending alot of time together she no longer tries to find a reason not to go to dinner or the movies with me.
Week nine, W body Language has started to change, she reaches out to hold my hand when we walk together.
Week ten, W body language has changed, always reaches out for my hand or hooks her hand in my arm, always brushes against me when we pass in the house, always touches me with with her hand or a leg when we go to sleep. Have i mentioned good sex yet?LOL somewhere around here it started again.
Week eleven to present. W suggests places to go on dates, pinches my butt (not sure whats up with that LOL) Says she is "IN" love with me.
So where do I go from here?
