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OM will not stop Email
#470369 01/22/04 09:49 AM
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My WW recently returned and has made a decission to work on our marriage. OM will not stop Email. Every message is him telling her she will fall back into the same feelings. He is trying so hard to hold on. When my W first ended it he went crazy. Now he is calm but will not stop. W says there is nothing he could do to change her mind. She lets me read the messages and she is honest about how they make her feel. I am still scared that she may turn around and we will have to start at ground zero. We started seeing a counselor together(good news) but sometimes once a week is not enough. What should I do, how do I stop the email?
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One way is to setup your email to block incoming email from his email address.

You are in a good place, though, since your wife is honestly telling you how the messages make her feel, and she has committed to make things work. Keep your emotions and anxiety in check, though. Some fear is healthy, but this seems to be a counter-productive fear. Keep the emotions at bay!

I'm happy for you, and I'm jealous, too. My WW has not yet decided whether to stay or go, and I'm still in Plan A.

Best of luck!

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brosco,

How ? easy ... reply the email and tell him this is you and you will seek R.O if he didn't stop. Keep those email for prove.

Then ask get your W to get a new email addy. Meanwhile ask her to relinguish this email to you ... change the password and lock it forever.

-rh-
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Today I did not feal like she is back. She is away on trip with mother. I found some calls on her cell phone. I feel she may be talking to OM and not telling me
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brosco don't do any e-mail blocking without asking your W first. The last thing you need is to give the OM ammunition that you are a selfish and controlling H. Express to your W that you love and respect her and because of this the last thing you want is to do things behind her back. Chances are that your W will appreciate this and just might feel obliged to reciprocate by telling you about any contact she had with the OM. Avoid all love busters and you will cement your relationship with your W.

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