I posted a message on Divorce/Divorcing. My H and I have been married for 15 years. After he had 1 affair in the begin. of our M for 2-3 years, he said he never wanted to get involved with anyone else. He wanted to try again. Within the next two months, my father was murderd, and my mom was diagnossed with cancer. She died 6 months later. I did not have the energy to really devote to the M. At the time our son was 4. After mom died, I tried to rekindle our relationship. Our daughter was born, a few years later, but I found that he had another relationship( friendship-claims it was non-sexual)
A few years later, I discovered another affair and this one was serious. He claimed he was "connected" with this one. It recently ended but was seeing someone else as the other relationship ended. WOW, this all sounds so involved.
This last relationship has taken him to Miami with her and several meetings. He claims now that he has not been sexual with her and only calls her. I discovered that he met her in a parking lot two weeks ago to "talk". He was recently in Las Vegas but swears that she was not along.
He loves our two children. He claims he loves me but is not in love with me. I told him that I couldn't live like this anymore and wanted some time away from him. He is in the process of finding a hotel tonight. I feel so guilty. He says that I have not been nice to him and truely I have not but it is because I seek and find out the lies that he tells and the lies hurt.
I know everyone must think I'm insane. He called me two times tonight to ask me if I really wanted him to go to a hotel. I asked him if it was I who was the WW, what would he do? He couldn't answer. I said that I would be DEAD to him by now.
He doesn't think that what he is doing is wrong. He maintains that this is merely a "friendship" and that I am too provincial to undertand that he is a social being. He claims our sex is great, going to dinner with me is great but when it is time to drink, he wants to do that on his own. (I claim that he enjoys this with his younger friends He is 45, they are usually in their 20's)
Some soap opera. Well, he will be out tonight. How long can I let him go. At this time, he doesn't find me nice enough to want to give up his other "friend". He claims there is nothing wrong with him talking and seeing her once in a while. But they talk several times a day, I've seen it on his phone history.
AHHHH!
