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I am in training now. But it is very hard. I want to forget about him.
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Just went to bed. But couldn't sleep. I don't know what this pain is. I don't think that I am thinking of H. Probably I don't like the stage I am in, don't know what it is, what it is going to come out, what the future will be. how to handle everything. Have kids to handle, etc.
I know that I shouldn't worry. i can give the burden to got. But these burden just like glue, I can't get rid of it.
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L&H do you have email...I really want to email you about some similiar stuff in our WH. I am going through something very similar I just posted again on GQ II, for an expert because I am confused about what I should be doing. One minute I can't stand him and the next everything is fine and I love him to death. Do you know what I mean? I am waiting for Octobergirl, or believer or ARK to post me or anyone with experience for that matter. Let me know how you are today. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Ny, My e-mail address is kzmath@hotmail.com.
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H just called and telling me that he won't come home for dinner. That is in my expectation. I already saw his reservation for tonight. I don't care anymore. I have to go to D's parent's conference.
OW's H called, but I missed his call. I don't know what it is about this time. I decide not to take it personal. Now I feel better, not as bad as this morning. I don't know how long this rollercoast ride will get easier.
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Hopefully OW's H will call again. He needs to figure this out.
I hope you are trying to put H in the back of your mind and concentrate on something else.
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Sorry to steal your thread, but I posted my Plan B letter in GQ II please take a look and give me your opinion. It is pretty basic from SAA. Thanks ladies and have a really great night. Take it one day at a time. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Ny, see my reply in your thread.
Just came back from the parents conference. I only saw 3 teachers in 2 hours. D was doing well, but she missed some work lately. Teachers were asking what is going on. I couldn't say anything. Maybe I need to get her for conseling. H of course is no where to be found. Actually, I feel good that he is not here. I will talk to his parents tonight.
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You probably should let teachers know what is going on. Your daughter is hurting and maybe they will give her extra attention.
When you talk to in-laws, tell them you love your H and are devastated. Don't bad-mouth him. Tell them you want your marriage to work and can't believe he is running with a homewrecker that leaves her little ones and H to be with your H.
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Just talk to D, she told me that she wanted suicide. She was crying. Poor kid.
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Get her into counseling quickly. Or get her on antidepressants. She needs some help. It is not normal for a 12 year old to think about suicide.
Forget about your H and take care of you and your daughter. This feeling she has should be taken seriously.
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She is already taking Zoloft. I think that I need to talk to the school conselor.
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I think you need to go to a real counselor. Or get in family counseling. If WH won't go, you and kids go.
Your H is off with OW and meanwhile you are home miserable with daughter that is considering suicide. H cannot help right now. But you can improve things. This is an emergency. Tell your daughter that you are going to get help. Time for the experts to step in.
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She was in real conselor before. She said that she doesn't want to go anymore. I will maek some calls tomorrow.
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Get into family counseling. The counselor will help you connect more with kids, and let them know what is going on. You and kids need to go. You are extremely smart. Your family is in danger. Get some expert help.
Forget about H. He will probably deny there is a problem. Time for you to step up and take care of this problem.
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You are very right. I told him that D wanted to suicide. He said if she said that, she won't. I can't believe how cold he is. I feel so hopeless. But I will get someone to talk to for family conseling.
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Ignore your H, that is just not true. Most people who commit suicide talk about it before.
I had a friend at work who kept saying he was going to commit suicide. We all thought he was being dramatic. I did tell one of the other men to tell him to get counseling, but he never did. Then one day he took an overdose, 100 feet away from the emergency room in our shop. He died from it.
I went to his funeral and watched his 4 kids talk about how much they loved him. They were crying and broken-hearted. That day I promised myself that I would never take suicide talk lightly again.
This is not to scare you, but I urge you to get some help right away. It will show your daughter that you care and are going to do something about it.
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I will definitely get help.
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Check out effects on children under general questions. I hope we can keep that thread going, since so many are facing it.
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I posted a new thread on general question. hopefully to get lots of help.
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