Lostnhurt -

Please bear with me. I am old and getting confused.

I am trying to understand why your WH is behaving as he is. There are many possibilities that you have mentioned. Here is the list:

1. You have not decorated your house. (Although the pictures you sent look great)

2. You have an old lamp in the bedroom.

3. You cannot be trusted. You keep trying to find out what he is up to with OW.

4. You are a vegetarian. You still cook meat for him, and lunches, but you do not eat meat.

5. You are not wild enough in the sack. You have been a virtuous woman, haven't had numerous sexual relationships, and keep your marriage vows.

6. You are a good woman who is concerned about your children and family.

So I guess if you let me know which one is true, I will be able to help you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

I think it must be that lamp. Why else could he possibly act so strange? You know....we didn't see the lamp in the pictures, did we??? Hmmm....

LL

(L&H, your house looked so nice by the way, that I think I should send YOU pics of mine and ask for decorating help! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> )

LL- That must be it - the lamp - lostnhurt is so sneaky, that she did not let us see a picture of the lamp.

I think so friends. You are so nice. It cheers me up today.

This morning I had this bad feelings again(I don't see any trigger). I was praying so hard to eliminate it. Reading your posts make me feel a lot better. I think that is one way GOD is comforting me.

Now I know what makes me so upset. The credit card bill is here. He was using my credit card to buy the opera tickets and went out for dinner that day with OW. I didn't say anything to him. I feel so betrayed and angry.

I hate this feeling. I will do everything to get rid of it.

Tried to go to Tuesday Morning for new lamps. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> But store was not open. I guess i will but the new bedding and pillows to make over the whole room.

Now I know today is Tuesday, it is my schedule fall down day. Give me a good excuse to not feel good. Just kidding. I will feel good.

Thinking of everyone here. Hope everyone have a good day.

L&H,

I agree, why just replace a lamp when you can redo a whole room.

Just wanted to let you know, not that it means a lot coming from a person with so little faith sometimes that I'm not sure my teeny prayers are heard...

But I prayed for you (and Believer, and SS and NY and some of the others I talk to regularly on here) last night. I also prayed for our WH's--that God would continue to work in their hearts for us, too.

Take care.

LL

LL, thank you for the prayer. I did the same too. I am thinking SS for her conseling and prayed for her to get good results. I don't know how I can live through this without friends here. I know that GOD led us here.

L&H
LL

I also pray for you ladies every night, I honestly do. I pray for SS also. I dont know if my teeny prayers are heard either,even though they last 1/2 sometimes, he must get sick of hearing from me. I think the Lord did lead us here to be a comfort for each other. I have no intentions of getting my WH to ever come home, so I am just going to lean on you and keep going to IC to be strong so I can raise these two wonderful gifts god has given me by myself. Hopefully someday when I feel better I can share my life with someone again and be a better partner. I can't file for D anyway because I would have no health insurance and I take several drugs everyday that are very expensive. If I didn't have WH health insurance it would be about 500.00 a month at the pharmacy. I have IBS and I take this one drug that is new with insurance it is 30. without it is 194. for a month. So since D isn't an option I am figuring I will wait it out. I have given my WH until Sept. if the fog doesn't clear, I'm outta here. Hope you all are having a fine day. It is snowing like heck here in central NY and I am not loving it one bit. Ewwww yuck! I hate snow on my flowers.

NY

NY, just sit still and wait. GOD is listening to our prayers. He has his schedule. I do believe whatever he gives us, it is the best for us. I think that the financial part could be solved too. GOD will have an answer to you.

We are going to have 1-3" snow here too. I think it is ok. I like it.

Back from shopping now. When I am done changing, I will post a picture. I do it for myself, not for WH!

You go girl - but do it for yourself. I bet something else will be wrong - the toaster or something.

Believer, I happy you are here. How is your day? I am still a bit down, but i am ok. Just tlaked to cousin. But she will be leaving soon, back to HK.

Hi all,

We end up with 15+" of snow yesterday here in Iowa. Yes, this IS Iowa, and it snows here, but usually only 4-5" at a time where I'm located. This one broke a few records, especially because it came so late in the season. At least it should melt quickly, but I hate it, too. I'm ready for spring.

I think you're right--we do help each other get through this. NY, keep having hope. You never know what will happen. I'm glad you can give him until September for the fog to clear. I'm so impatient! I want my WH's fog gone NOW! And I do very poorly waiting.

I'll post to my own thread over in GQII in a little while. I did a BAAAAAD thing last night. I definitely broke the Plan B that I've done such a crappy job being in anyway. On the good side, I think it at least earned me a few LU's in his bank. On the bad side, I blew 3 weeks of not seeing him. I just CAN'T seem to get this right. Talk about weak and no willpower!!

LL

LL, Enjoy the snow while you can. But you know spring is close. Just like our life, we thought spring is here, a storm blew it off. But no matter what, spring will still be here. Let's keep our hope.

Try read what ARK post to me. I don;t know what I should do. Am I not tough enough?

L&H

What nationality are you? I sense a little accent in your writing like you are from another country, it is kind of neat. I am glad you went shopping. Remember to do things slowly and the way you like them, not rushed.

NY

NY, you are right. I am Chinese. So is Wh and OW, and her H. Yike.

WH is home early today. One resaon is that he is not feeling well. NAother reason is that it is snowing here, his car doesn't drive to well in snow. So he comes home to sleep now.

I set up the bedroom. He saw it and told me the lamps are good. But the bedding are too red. I thank for his comment and told him that I want some warm color in my bedroom.

Well you could go buy new bedding. But maybe it wouldn't be the right color either. Then you could go get another one..........

I was looking at Believer's earlier post. An idea--just confuse him by getting a new toaster or something and then if he complains again about the bedding, sell him on all the toasters neat features! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

LL