good morning lost, make sure and catch up on sleep on the cruise that way you'll be rejuvinated for the next leg of the race. I know about the sleep and it helping you not to think about things. i just went home afterwork yesterday and went to bed and I feel a lot better this morning but i've got to get back to working out.

Has your S had nosebleeds before? i'm sure that would be kind of scary for a kid to have. I'm a nurse so hardly anything scares me, as far as medical things are concerned. Hang in there and remember God can do anything but fail and you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. prayers to you.

Lostnhurt -

I don't think my WH is turning around, but I am changing. He is retiring in 10 more days, so we will see what is next. OW is moving all of her things out of her husband's house.

I can tell she is really putting on the pressure for my WH to do something. They may even move out of state together. I don't know, but am suspicious.

Financially I will make it fine. I am paying for 2 mobile homes, plus college expenses for my 2 boys. They work, but it barely covers their food and gas. But I keep thinking I just need to hang in here for awhile longer and something good will happen.

You try to have hope too. I don't see your WH leaving you. He is just very confused right now. Try to be strong for your family. We women have done that through the centuries.

Believer, thank you for your encouragement. I know that women are strong and tough. They look weak, but they are strong like you and me and all others here.

RR, thank you for your concern. I am so glad we have a nurse here. S's nose bleed was a long history. He is 8 now. He is so used to it now. When he was little, once he bleed so bad, a lot of blood went to his stomach, and my whole bed was red, two bath towel were full of boold. He was screaming b/c of fear. I finally had to call 911. When they arrived, he just threw up all the blood. I thought he was bleeding inside which almost made me faint. But it finally stopped. Now the onlything it bothers him and me is that it is so frequent. We saw dr.. He put vasaline in his nose every night, there was a humidifier in his room. I hope he will grow out of it.

lostnhurt -

My son used to have frequent nosebleeds when he was young. It is very scary. But kids usually grow out of it.

The vaseline should help. Also be sure he does not pick his nose. When he is having a nosebleed, tip his head forward, then the blood won't go down his throat. Also you, or he can pinch the area in front of his nose, where the cartilege meets the area above his upper lip. It needs to be held for 10 minutes. That will usually stop the nosebleed.

The other thing is having good humidity thru out the house. We had an electronic air cleaner attached to the heater/AC. The doctor said that it also dried out the air too much, so I had a humidifier attached. It really seemed to help.

Believer, thans for the advice. We have everything in the house, air cleaner, whole house humidifier, one in his room. I did those pinching stuff, he knows. He knows to tip his head forward too, that was taught by the fire fighters who came in the 911 call. Now we just want him to grow out of it.

He had accomplished another thing. He just weaned his diaper at night last month. I never laughed at him about that. But WH made him feel so bad by telling him not to take him for boyscout camping. But I prayed a lot for that. Now he finally quit that. He only wet his bed once last week. I am so proud of him.

That is very good. Kids who wet the bed have no control over it, it is better not to make a big deal out of it.

You have so much weighing on you right now. Please try to have a great time on your cruise and forget about all of the problems. Pamper yourself and have fun.

When you get through this, you will know that your marriage and family could survive one of the biggest tests and thrive. That day will come, just have faith.

Believer,

You are so good. you always give me so much encouragement. I know that GOD sent youto me.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> When you get through this, you will know that your marriage and family could survive one of the biggest tests and thrive. That day will come, just have faith. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I cried so hard on this. I know I must have faith.

Believer,

I had sent you an e-mail. Please read it when you have a chance.

lost, i wanted to reply earlier but couldn't until now. first i want to say i wasn't laughing at you but i was laughing when you said that you almost fainted w/all the blood from your S nose. i never thought that a person could actually faint from the sight of blood, etc. until a few years ago when i had a patient that had a pretty large abdominal wound and i was changing the dressing. the patient's 23 yr old son (a big guy) was holding his mom's hand while i was doing this and the next thing i know he was on the floor! he had fainted! ever since then i know that people can faint if they see blood, etc. but at the same time it's kind of weird because it doesn't affect me that way. the reason why your son vomitted blood from his bloody nose is because the stomach cannot digest blood and so it "throws" it up. that's why people are told to tilt their heads forward and not back when they have a bloody nose.

anyway...of course outwardly a lot, i would even say most women do seem meak or weak but think of all the strong women in the Bible, they probably thought they were weak but we look to them as being some of the strongest women ever. God gives a lot of strength and special qualities to women and we need to just let Him use us the way he plans on using us. it's incredibly hard and probably will be fo the rest of our lives but God is right there w/us, letting us lean on him and look to him for what we need.

lost, know that you are doing what God wants you to do and that you will be able to look back and say you did all that you could and that no matter what you looked for God's will in all this. Tomorrow is another day closer to the cruise. hang in there and prayers to you.

RR, thanks a lot for the prayers. I need it.

I don't think you were laughing at me at all. I do appreciate your help.

Talk about fainting. Before I had my D, I miscarried once. I was in the emergency room with H. I cried so badly because of the miscarriage. The nurse was trying to put an IV in my arm, but I was so thin. She tried very hard, only to have blood all over. When she looked around, my H was on the floor. So she had to ask for help, some other nurse to give me the poke, and she had to pick my H up.

Then on my son's birth, H was so nervours(that was the 2nd child) he got lost. Then after the labor,when the Dr. clean up everything and said it is over. He said to me, I am so tired from seeing all the blood and from holding you. So I think that we women are stronger.

I am looking upon GOD, try to go in the right path. please keep praying for me. Thanks. I will pray for you too.

roughroad -

Nurses are really God's angels, and I praise you for that. I am one who faints at the sight of blood. I always wanted to be a nurse, but knew I could not do it.

I have had 3 fainting experiences. One when a girl in the office cut her finger on the paper-cutter. I went with her to doctor to give her moral support. The doctor told me he just had to push the flesh back into the wound. That was it for me. Everything went dark, and I fell to the floor.

Then I had a friend when I was 17 that was getting chemo for melanoma. Her catheter was bothering her and I tried to move it. Yep down again.

The last was this year when my son cut his hand while we were walking on the beach. He was trying to cut open some mussels. The blood was spurting everywhere. I got him up to the street, and started getting dizzy. Luckily my step-daughter had run for help.

LNH,

I am sorry to hear about your S's nosebleeds. You have a lot going on right now. I think the cruise will do you good.

I also have to leave my kids with WH, in May, though, and they're older. It's for sure that he's not riding down to meet me on my business trip to FL, so he will have to stay at the house with the kids while I'm gone. I'm not all that excited about him doing that. I worry he won't come home until late. And he'd better NOT bring OW into my house. I think even in his fog, he's smarter than that.

I don't want to go on my trip, though. It's a business meeting stuck right in the heart of DisneyWorld, but they're not giving us any free time for the parks. We have dinner at Epcot's American Adventure one night, but other than that, we're stuck in meeting rooms at Disney's Yacht Club the entire time. I told someone I was going to stick my foot in front of a car tire and have someone run it over just to get out of going. It still doesn't sound like a half-bad idea! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Believer,

I know what you mean about not being sure your WH will turn around, or that he and OW may move in together. I have that same fear with my WH. At the end of this month, he has to move...somewhere. The OW has been pressuring him hard since he gave notice, to find a place big enough for the two of them and her baby. One little push the wrong direction from me between now and then, and I think he'd do it. Or, he may just "hang out" in the camper or with friends for a month or so to save money for a deposit, and then do it anyway.

I just have to keep telling myself over and over that God is in control. I'm not. I can't control his decisions. I can only be responsible for my own.

I do want to feel better. Even though you may have not done the best Plan B, you seem to have peace. I have had a few days lately where I feel like I'm actually detaching a little and feeling better, but most days I still think of him a lot.

LL

you guys had me laughing again <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> thanks for saying nurses are angels, don't think i am necessarily. I'm not doing patient care anymore, it just became to stressful for me, not being able to help those i wanted to in the ways i needed to, too many people not appreciating what you are trying to do and why, not having the support of the higher-ups to do what needs to be done, and i just couldn't stop trying to do evrything myself so i really got burnt out, i felt used and abused. oh well, i'm still a nurse but i'm more on the administrative side now. making sure other nurses are doing what they are supposed to do.

isn't it such a blessing that we have this site to come to? i feel God led me here and I'm glad of that even though i'm sad too that there are so many people here, but i try not to think too much on that. i think more of how this site is helping me and so many others. smiles, hugs, prayers to all of you.

P.S. still waiting for you guys to update your signature lines to give us a snapshot of your story <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

LL- Although I hope my WH will "get it", I am prepared that he may not. I have given him lots of chances, but he may still blow it.

Ok, I finally updated my sig line now. Just to see how it works.

thanks sweetie, it helps me have a clearer picture of your situation <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

RR, what state are you in?

I really want to meet all of you. I wish we are closer, so we can spend our weekends together.

I'm in southern illinois. but i have family in utah and arkansas, my H is in florida, and my IL's are in NJ. so i really could be just about anywhere <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I may also do a fair amount of training due to going to conferences, etc. I truly feel it's a small world. I'm big on keeping in contact w/people because you just never know when you might run into them again. I keep in touch w/people all over the US, alaska, germany, iraq, etc.

i've never lived around my extended family, it was just me, my sister, and my parents when i was growing up (my dad was in the air force for 21yrs) then i got married and my husband was in the air force for 9yrs and then i was in the air force for 4 yrs. so i had to reach out a lot to other people in the military and make friends. guess that was kind of a long answer to your question. but anyway, gotta go for the day, will be back tomorrow and check in on you. have a good night and prayers to you.

I am mad, and very mad.

WH came home for dinner, then he asked me for a hair cut. After his hair cut, I gave ahair cut to S, he went to take a shower. By the time I clean up everything, he dressed up and zoomed out. Why do i serve such a selfish person? i am hurt and mad. I asked him to take S with him, he just left. I know that he must go to meet OW.

Why are you expecting him to change? Don't expect anything from him right now. You will just be very disappointed. At least you have the computer now.