My H moved out 2 months ago after not being able to disentangle from OW. I have been attempting to use Plan A tactics. Have given him free access to our home. I have attempted to be supportive and no LBs. When I tell him that I want things to work out between us, he doesn't reciprocate. Doesn't know what he wants. He acts like a child when we are together, very dismissive and blames the A on me. Blames all problems on others. He is in therapy and although recognizes his problems, doesn't act to correct his behavior. Not remoreseful for A. Doesn't attempt to contact his son. Is very self centered right now. "I don't have to tell anyone what I'm doing". Has basically written off all of those that love him but the OW. Plan B seems in order. Question: do I tell him he no longer has free access to our home. That until he gets his s*** together, we don't want to talk or see him?

MontanaSky-

Your H is acting like they all do. He is in the fog, has made a mistake and is going to blame it all on you. Stay in Plan A, with no LB's if you can. Come here for support.

Also do a lot of reading here. If you go to the home page, on the right is a section called "quick clicks" that explains the different stages of infidelity and reconciliation.

After lots of reading and posting, you will get a good grip on the program and it will become like second nature. A good Plan A is essential.