Well I am not going to sit around all day today waiting for you to invite me over tonight like I did yesterday. When you are at the store why dont you get one of those box pizza's and we can have that for dinner. The one you made last week was very very good. By the way I am inviting myself over tonight. I will pick Sissy up for soccer and come back for dinner tonight. Why dont you pick up another dvd while you are out today too? I am not going to be able to make your appointment today. But I have decided after alot of thought yesterday I do want to go and meet with her and talk to her. So why dont you make an appointment for me for next Thursday afternoon? Let me know.


Yesterday was the first time since he moved out I didn't ask him at all about coming over or ask him about his plans.... it was also the second time since we seperated 3 weeks ago he hasn't been over.... The appointment he is referring to is a meeting with a MC, which he has refused to go over and over again. I am trying plan A now... so should I tell him I have plans or just get the pizza and movie and have a great night?

Plan A should be done for 3 months at least. So get the pizza, a dvd and have a great night.

How are you doing in Plan A? Sometimes it is very hard not to LB. Come here if you need support. Also have you read the 180 list?

Just my opinion, but you should not make any more appointments for him with MC, since he was unable to keep the one you made today. Drop all talk of your relationship.

Sounds to me like your H is going to be back sooner, rather than later. After you have done a solid Plan A, we will help you decide what comes next.

Okay I'll do that... the MC, I make appts and see her with or without him. I have asked him to go with me... I'll just make an appointment for myself and let him know the time and place... we'll see if he shows up... THANKS believer!!!


AND BTW... oh heck yeah... to not LB is the hardest thing in the world when you are so hurt. On days I feel like LBing.... I'll be right here!!! I use to feel so alone... I don't anymore... Thanks <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I know how hard it is not to LB. I never did a Plan A - I found this site too late. But the great thing about this place is you can come here and LB all you want. And we will take your side.

Also for me, I can look at others' posts and figure out what they should do. But I can never figure out what I should do. When I come here with the latest saga, right away people will jump in and straighten me out. I can't tell you how close I came to letting my H move back in with no conditions. Everyone here said NOOOOOOOO!

Believer,

I am glad I have found this site early, for sure. I just finally got the nerve to actually make a post yesterday and I can't believe how much better I feel. I am just reading and posting and reading and posting, it really helps to see that you are not losing your flippin mind and that most of it is so the same for everyone. Which is very weird.... isn't it?

How are things going for you now? Where do you stand now?

Think I'll give myself a pedicure today and look forward to tonight... pedicures always make you feel better don't they?

I'm back into Plan B, finally. I was in it for 3 months and WH wanted to reconcile and move home, but still had OW. I had a terrible time getting back into Plan B.

That is why it is so important to stick to the plans. This is a very structured program for a reason. Read Takola's post here called "I think I'm going to sue".

I agree do the dvd and the pizza, anytime opportunity during Plan A, where you can suck it up and maybe get the opportunity to show you are the more matutre person willing to make changes in youself , is only a positive. If not for him, you'll feel better for it down the road.

Believer mentioned the 180 list in your post. What's the 180 list

The significant problems we face can not be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them. - Albert Einstein

I agree with HRB and Believer.

Get the pizza and the movie. Dont' talk about the relationship just focus on being as chipper as you possibly can.

This will help lift the fog for your WS.

Hang in there. You're doing the right thing.

Well please see my other post about the letters after the nice night we had... We had a great night... No LBing no nuttin... just a wonderful relaxful peaceful evening. Then he sent me an email and wanted to come home but be allowed to keep his gf.... anyway see my post in

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=37;t=026872

and you will see what crazy crap happened later tonite. I don't know what this means... and if I should remain true to plan A or move into plan B. I don't even know what a plan B letter looks like... if anyone knows of some good threads listed it would be great if you would post them here so I can look. Thanks <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Heavenlee -

I don't think your H has too much time to spend with OW. He is too busy emailing you. Stay in Plan A. You seem to be doing very well. He knows what he needs to do.

LOL Believer Thanks <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />