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<small>[ March 05, 2004, 02:28 PM: Message edited by: KitG ]</small>
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Whoa, what a mess. In my opinion if you have done a good Plan A, time for Plan B. He will have to move out and have NC with you. Otherwise this will go on forever. WS is having an EA and is not concerned how it hurts you, the family, and the marriage.
If you can afford it, get some counseling from the Harleys. You might get just one session right now at this critical point.
My fear is that you have been going through this too long. You may lose your love for HIM.
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Oh by the way. Explain to the kids that you and daddy are having problems, but you have a plan. Yes it will be hard on them, but not as hard as a D.
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KitG,
I have a quick question, if OW is married have you told her H?
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<small>[ March 05, 2004, 02:27 PM: Message edited by: KitG ]</small>
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This OW is running the show. If she has all of these problems, she needs counseling from a professional, not your H. I would talk to OW's H again. Yes your H will be mad, they all are.
Try to get a counseling session with the Harleys. They can often site right in on what needs to be done.
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<small>[ March 05, 2004, 02:27 PM: Message edited by: KitG ]</small>
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No, shooting a hole in your head is not anywhere in the MB plan. Calm down and take some time to think this over. There are a bunch of us going through these plans, and they seem to be working well. Hang in there with us.
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<small>[ March 05, 2004, 02:26 PM: Message edited by: KitG ]</small>
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You are coming off as whiney, demanding and complaining because you are getting worn out with all of this. Have you read the 180 list?
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<small>[ March 05, 2004, 02:26 PM: Message edited by: KitG ]</small>
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<small>[ February 21, 2004, 02:39 AM: Message edited by: Thoughts ]</small>
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The 180 list is not from the MB plan. But I think it is useful to start working on for you. We BS's tend to get desperate and WS is our whole world.
Working on ourselves helps us to remain calm and not just reacting, reacting, reacting.
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