When I found out a week ago about the A WH was having it was a blow! Sunday he finally committed to not seeing her "indefinetly". What the heck does that mean? Anyway, he is seeing me on a daily basis, comes by the house, we kiss, cuddle, etc, etc...But as soon as he leaves me he calls her on the cell phone. How can this be Plan A if he is still calling her. All his friends, co-workers, the Therapist, etc...have told him to STOP all contact with her, but he says it is too hard NOT to call her.

How can I go on with Plan A if he is still calling her behind my back. The do not talk long, but still. Each day goes by and it is different. One day he wants to save the marraige, the next he doesn't think he can because he is not "in love" with me anymore! What should I do...I know what you are going to say...Wait, Wait, Wait...but how long. this is just killing me.

Our situation was a bit different. We were not intimate and that is what he was missing. I had lots of problems, which you can find in my other posts, but I have worked on them and they are fine now. Should I just jump his bones <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> and SHOW him I can be like I used to be?

Thanks for you comments!

Plan A is to show him what a good thing he may lose. It includes no LB's or disrespectful judgements. It is necessary to show him the way back to the marriage.

Stay in Plan A for several months if possible. Then if OW is still in the picture, you can break out Plan B.

I'm in the same boat you are. I don't see or hear any doubts from my WH that he doesn't want to lose me, and he wants to rebuild what we have, but I no longer ask if he still talks to OW. It only weakens me.

The rollercoaster really bites, I feel your pain, too rawly. I'm giving this 6 months to a year. As much as you wish you could go back in time, it sadly isn't possible. Be strong, be confident, and realize you've lost something too, this happen to you too. The more positive you become, the better woman he will see in you. Cry when he's not around, but be honest. This takes time, in the end, you may decide you are strong enough and want to be on your own, but you won't know until you really apply these theories.