I am feeling better today. I am working hard on my goal to rent this house I am looking at to move out of my parents house with my son. I started taking my Paxil again on Monday and I sure that is helping. I did not call him yesterday but did shoot him a quick e-mail to ask if he remembered when we were at counseling did he remember when we chased each other around and that made me laugh. He emailed me back saying he remembered and that was fun and that he knew I was leaving work and he was going to nap and would talk to me later on. Well he didn't call but I didn't call him either. I may have some strength left to start Plan A again with all my heart into that and really try to not to let my emotions control me. I know I have to come to gripes with the lies and him not being honest with me but after I Plan A and if he is ever ready to come here I will tell him that he needs to finished with his "business" there first.

I am on Paxil too. Oops, I forgot to take my pill this morning. Oh well, I'll take it when I get home. I am glad you are feeling better. Just focus on getting your own place and taking care of your son. Maybe he will come around when he is ready when he sees that you are getting by on your own without him. Hang in there!

This is what I think happened. I think without knowing he was going through his withdrawl from her back also after I moved back to VA. I think they stopped talking or see each other for the most part and he said he saw her and her husband (they have a baby together too) bowling with some mutual friends. I think that they broke it off and he was in turmoil over everything and he didnt know if he wanted me back or whatever. I was basically Plan A'ing when he would accept it but I was starting to live life for myself. Back in the middle of Jan he told me he loved me, missed me and sent me this wonderful email asking if he could come here. I said yes and we had been planning since. Then I think something came up recently with her and that is why he didn't get on that plane to visit me. I think she may of contacted him or vice versa so I am goig to go about trying to get a place for me and my son and let him know I am here for him.

Yeah, I think my WH is in withdrawal for OW too. She is married with 2 kids of her own and I exposed it to her husband. My WH was SO MAD at me for doing that. I guess it was a LB but I had to do it to get help from the OWH to end their EA. OW wants nothing to do with my WH. So I guess he is alone now but feels that the love he has/had for her is not like any love that he has ever had for me. I am getting absolutely nothing from about wanting to come back or work on M so it is very hard. I guess I will just move on. He comes over to see our kids almost daily though. In a way, I want to take our kids away from him but I know that would only hurt our kids in the end. My little boy is so sad, he says, "Daddy, I want you to come to mommy's house and sleep in mommy's bed".

Awww that is so sad for your son, how old is he? My son from my first marriage is 7 and he misses his stepdad so bad. I think you are probably right and I didn't even realize or even think that he could of been in withdrawal from her. I guess it is weird it is like he is surviving a breakup while being married. It is a hard concept for me to grasp. I just don't want to be used ya know like I am second choice.

My son will be 3 next month and yes, it is very sad. He doesn't understand why daddy doesn't live with us anymore. At least my 9 month old won't know the difference for awhile. Yes, it does hurt bad for WS to say they are in love with someone else and think they love OP more than they love you.

My son has know his stepdad since he was 2 1/2 and he considers him his Dad. He keeps askign when he is coming and how much his misses Arizona. I try to tell him I miss Daddy too and that he will come soon and if he ever wants to call him he can. I think my H is very confused on what he wants. I know now that he has to figure that out on his own. I will continue to be there for him but I need to move forward for myself and my son and if my H decides he wants us then we both have a lot to do to make that happen.