This is my first post. Bear with me. I'll try to not to go on and on. . .

My H of 8 years left me two weeks ago. He says he does not love me and he doesn't want to try to love me again or work things out. We have a DS who is 3yo. H is crazy about him, and says he is the only thing that has kept him around for the past three years. I"m so hurt. I have a deep faith that the Lord can do anything. I know that HE can restore my H love for me if H would just be willing.
H had an emotion affair (EA??) with a close friend of both of ours two years ago. Luckily, H"s job transfered him from DE to TX, so we got away just in time (one 1/2 months after EA discovered). We tried counseling and read all of the boos (his needs her needs, 5 love languages). H just can't seem to get her out of him mind. Has a problem with my weight and his perfectionism. I still love him deeply and want him to come home. I know I can forgive once he makes up his mind that he wants to save the marriage and our family.
H is living with a bachelor friend (divorced, and sincerly wants us to work things out), but I want him home so badly. I hurt physically.

Where do I go from here?

Any and all help is appreciated. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

<small>[ March 19, 2004, 12:55 PM: Message edited by: gritsl ]</small>

Welcome to marriagebuilders. It is lucky you got here so soon. Start in Plan A. Read all about it here. Any signs of another woman, especially one who is "just a friend"?

G,

I know it hurts. We all been there.

First, calm yourself down. Be strong and take care of yourself and your S.

Second, find out why he said that? If he said he doesn't love you any more, it is always a sign of infidelity. Did you talk to him? Did you start investigating?

Third, read everything you can from this site, I didn't mean the posts. But all the concept, basic ideas, and all articles. See family support at this difficult time too.

Saty here, many good advice will come.