I have a post on Gen questions 2 that has my whole story but I'll give a summary.

I got the I'm not happy speach in December, I should have been working on Plan A then but I found the site too late. My WW has moved in with OM as of Feb. 11th I've talked to my WW a few times after that and I found this sight right after she told me about the affair, of course getting her to admit it was like pulling teeth. I have not done a real solid Plan A as you can guess and it's hard to do since I haven't seen her in a week or talked to her on the phone. I found out this week that my WW and OM are on vacation in Portorico (he likes to gamble) I'm hoping that she had a bad time (wishful thinking but trying to stay positive). I sent her an email letting her know that she has mail to pick up, so since she's on vacation I don't know when that will be. Should I try to do a solid Plan A from the last time I seen her for a month and then do a Plan B. I also have informed her family and mine about the affair. My MIL is going to talk to her Monday about it. I know I should wait for the affair to fizzle but I'm not sure if I'm strong enough to wait six months or a year. Any imput would be appreciated thanks.

Johns98ck

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BS(me) 35
WS 29
No children
D-day 3/10/04
WS left 2/11/04

I'm no expert but Plan A is what will help you become the attractive choice again. The book does say most affairs die a natural death within 6 months or less. Be as nice and genuine to her as you can. Try to meet her needs and as hard as it is no LB. Since you don't have kids, it may be few and far between the times that you do get to talk to her so take advantage of them when you do get a chance.

Thanks for the thoughts Movingon.