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I was just wondering how, or what are the ways people make it through these confusing frustrating times? What have you done, read, etc. to get you through this.
I had this issued resolved in my heart and head until 2 weeks ago when it was basically thrown back in my face when he didn't get on the plane and chose other business. The pain, anger and frustration all came flooding back!
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Angel,
What I did was read, read, read, then do things I like(it is not easy), clean the house, excersice, come here to vent and get advice. Also get anti-D. That is very very helpful. So you need to talk to your dr. Lots of love and hugs.
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Forgot to mention, if you are a believer, praying is very important. I prayed for patience, wisdom and strength. I did not pray for having my H back. But I prayed that I accept what GOD gives me.
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I am actually back on anti-d's as of last week. I try to come here and read everyones stories but sometimes I think it makes it harder because it just makes me recount everything over and over and the lies and dishonesty. That is the worst part for me the blatent dishonesty and the lies. Which I told him many times just to be up front with me but when I think of the ways he went out of his way to be deceitful to me really hurts.
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Try to remember you're not in a place right now to make any decisions. You need some time to digest all that's happened and figure out what you want as well.
In the meantime, read the posts, the information on the site. Start Plan A, so if the possibility that you want to save your relationship does become your decision, you've already begun a lot of the hard work ahead of you.
We've all been we you are. We are all here, day and night, vent here, it will help tremendously.
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That's what they all do. Lie, lie, lie, deny, deny, deny. It helps me to read about it here, then I can't take it personally - they are just going by the WS handbook. It gets almost funny after awhile.
The other things I did to help was get on with a life of my own. I exercised, cleaned the house spotless, detailed the car, redecorated, got rid of every sign of a man living with me, joined a women's support group, did the yard, started a business, let everyone I knew, know that I was ready to go out and do some things.
If you get busy, your self-esteem will come back and you will have something to feel good about.
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The biggest dilema right now is he is not here in the same state. I am trying my hardest to find a place to live (living with my parents right now) that way if he still chooses to he could come here and see where to go from there but right now with the distance it just puts more and more time between us and I am really giving up any hopes that I will see him again.
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