If anyone has followed Dr. Phil he has a show that is dedicated weekly to what he has titled the "Dr Phil Family". He has taken on a family, the mother/W, Stacy and the father/H and stepfather, Chris that have extreme problems.

1st, the mother/W, Stacy comitted adultery by having an A.
A became evident to husband, Chris's utter devastation and humiliation with birth of the child which is bi-racial.
W, Stacy had 2 additional A's to this one.

2nd, W, Stacy has children from prev. M which clash with Chris.
Chris compounds the problem by showing constant support to the child he and she have together, Chandler and other children feel slighted.

3rd, the family has heavy financial debt.
On top of this debt,
Guess what?
Stacy is pregnant again, after recently giving up child of Infidelity.

4th, Stacy's son, Michael has severe behavioral problems which consist of him abusing his smaller siblings and refusing to follow any rules given by his mom or stepfather thereby stiring up a ruckus in the household.

Dr Phil's Approach to the family's problems:
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Introduced rather radical approaches to dealing with the family's problem.
Recommendations which the family have followed:

1st, Giving up the baby for adoption that was concieved of Infidelity.

2nd, Sending the son, Michael away to a Boy's home to deal with his behavioral issues.

3rd, He is expecting total submission to his approaches, though they are rather sound, but restrict the family to some degree to make their own plan or tailor solutions in working with the program.

Trouble in the camp


Dr Phil and his show have put in the time and money to treat the family. Which includes:

1. Payment for Michael's long term stay and care at the boys' home,
2. Referring and hiring a local psychologist to help them in conjunction with Dr. Phil
3. Set-up up a Harvard financial counselor to help them with their financial problems
4. Set up weekly monitoring by camera, counseling, and so on.

However the wife/mother Stacy has:
1. Openly disagreed with Dr. Phil, therefore not complying
2. Been rude to his staff
3. Shut off the the cameras she agreed to have in the home
4. Refused financial help from a Harvard financial counselor

Well Dr Phil told her he felt that they should stop meeting. And of course, he would stop the family's long term care which has taken place for months now.

He told her that he wanted her to either put in 100% dedication to what he was trying to do for the family or put in 100 % to doing things her way.

What do you think? And how do you feel about Dr Phil taking on this family to repair it but the restriction of the family in submitting to his recommendations?

Yikes -

Sounds like my WH's family. I think it is very hard to help a dyfunctional family. Usually they want help, but also want to continue doing the things they always have done. It is very frustrating.

Hi FtB,
I was dying to see that show, and forgot about it. So, what did she say? I think Phil was right on... if she wasnt going to put any effort into this, they're wasting everybodys time and $. AND, it doenst look good for Phil. He needs a sucess... - Dru

Believer it is exactly as you said. the family wants the help but the mother wants to continue in her ways. TO be honest I had a problem with giving up the baby. WHat if the baby had been concieved by the man. THen they would've had to pay child support and they couldn't have just shoved the baby under the rug. By her just giving up the child I felt it kept her from being responsible for the baby and what she did.

Drucilla, she changed her tune big time when she found out that she was about to be ousted. Through her flowing tears she sound a little somethng like this, "I think I'll start sucking eggs now and stop doing my own thing." Anyway they are still ont he show. I think it was a real wake up call for her. For many people, myself included sometimes it takes a harder push.

Well it sounds like the baby will have a better chance in a different family. There are so many people that want a child and can't have one.

My husband and I have been following the story - the thing I found interesting was that Stacy's former profession was a marriage counsellor - could you imagine having her as your counsellor - married three times - she is a piece of work - seriously, it is amazing to listen to her with Dr. Phil. I feel sorry for her husband, he seems like a genuinely nice person, she seems very cold, ungrateful and unsympathetic to what she is putting her childre and husband through

believer, you made a good point. It is probably better that the baby is in another home especially wih Stacy having so many problems and really seeming to be stuck at wanting to do what she feels is best.

I guess I just felt that she might not learn from her mistakes by having such a quick resolve of giving up the child. But if the family has such an unstable enviornment as it seems on the show it was probably best to let the little one be in a family of loving people that can raise him without the problems her family might present. Not that any family is perfect.

Sandy, no way. Are you serious that Stacy was a MC? Oh my goodness that might explain why she seems so adamant about doing what she feels is more important rather than what Dr Phil
recommends.

However that seemed to have changed as he told her that she was going to be ousted. I just really have hope for this family. They have so many problems but I'd like to see it turn round for them.

Hi FtB,

Thank you for the update. I'm glad she decided to step up to the plate.

And yes, not only is she a councelor, but someone here on MB knows her and says she's really a nice person. I thought the same thing.. WOW <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> - Dru

Sandy0000 & FreeToBe:

I only caught the very first episode with that family on Dr. Phil. I wanted to follow it but am very busy and the few times I could check in they were doing other topics (usually weight loss - which I don't need help with LOL)

I was thought it was absolutely incredible (literally) that she was a marriage counselor! I was wanting Dr. Phil to say something to her like, "I can't believe you're a marriage counselor". She impressed me as so lacking in morals, insensitive, immature, selfish, and just not too bright. I had trouble believing she had gone to college even. She said she behaved badly because she needs to have attention. She even said she had the last affair and got pregnant because "this will get his attention" (husband's). I really felt sorry for her husband and the kids. But I really disliked her. Dr. Phil said he was only helping this family for the kids' sake. I felt the husband should just dump her - the way I know my family, friends and kids feel I should just dump my husband LOL.