I was just wandering how everyone's physical well-being is during this time of turmoil. Are you physically sick? What are some of your symptoms? I don't mean to focus on the negativity of our situations but maybe this can be a support group for some of those with physical ailments that have resulted from the chaos. Also, what are some ideas or suggestions for things we can do to start feeling better?
Some of the things I am experiencing are:
1. diarrhea
2. weight loss (this is a good thing for the time being <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> )
3. insomnia (some nights)
4. sleeping too much (other nights)
5. backaches
6. loss of appetite
7. inability to focus on work, children, etc.

I have all of them besides #4.

A few of mine in addition to yours:

8.headaches
9.nausea
10.lightheadedness
11.nightmares
12.feelings of doom
13.irritability

I just try to take care of myself as much as possible and to do that I try to eat right,take my meds and drink plenty of fluids,etc.I am due for a physical soon too.

o

I share your:

1.Weight loss (not a good thing for me, though <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> ) I'm already underweight to start with
2.Loss of appetite
3.Difficulty in getting up in the morning (Originally had insomnia as well)
4.Nightmares
5.Feelings of doom
6.Inability to focus, to the point I lose track in the middle of a sentence
7.Irritability/Nervousness
8.Headaches
9.Nausea or that "knife in the pit of my stomach"

I will also have moments where waves of panic hit me (probably not an "official" panic attack) where I am very nervous and shaky, and it feels like someone has their thumb pressing in the pit of my throat and it's hard to breathe.

I, too, am just trying to take as good of care of myself as I can. I was drinking nutritional supplements for a while to try and gain weight, but they are expensive over the long term.

I have to go back to my Dr. soon because I take Celexa and my insurance removed it from their list, so I have to switch A/D's.

Finally, I pray a lot. My faith is weak, and I get sidetracked and worried easily, but it helps to remember that God is there.

LL

<small>[ April 03, 2004, 06:10 PM: Message edited by: lordslady ]</small>

1. No appetite, drastic weight loss.
2. Insomnia. Now I cannot sleep unless I am
in my own home or I take a sleeping aid.
2a. Then I cannot get out of bed in the morning, probably because of the sleeping aid.
3. Nausea almost all of the time.
4. My heart literally aches.
5. Dizzy spells.
6. Diarrhea almost every day when my nerves
get frazzled over my thoughts of my WH and
his A.
7. Irritable and sometimes over anxious.


It sounds like we all of the BS Flu!

Yes, I had all the same symptoms as you all.

Anti-D's put me on the right track again.

Although I have some bad moments, all in all they have saved my sanity.

I just want to add that I had all those things wrong with me until I convinced myself of one little thing....

One tiny little thing that has made all the difference.

I don't NEED her.

You heard me...I don't NEED her.

I want her in my life, I prefer that she is here with me and our children(not just physically but mentally as well) BUT...

We will survive without her.

I NEED oxygen...
I NEED food...
I NEED Water...

But I don't NEED her to survive.

Don't mistake it for indifference or coldness but it has eased my mind, taken away some of my suffering, and made me focus on what is truly important.

Me and my kids

Try it

BrokenHubby

BH,
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I want her in my life, I prefer that she is here with me and our children(not just physically but mentally as well) BUT...

We will survive without her.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I have adopted that same attitude with my WH. Although, I would have to add that more of my well-being has resulted from giving it all to GOD. I have learned thru counseling that there is literally nothing I can do to change my WH, to make him do what I want him to do and in order to feel better and be less miserable, to just give it to God. It is in his hands and I have finally felt a sense of peace from that.

LordsLady,
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I will also have moments where waves of panic hit me (probably not an "official" panic attack) where I am very nervous and shaky, and it feels like someone has their thumb pressing in the pit of my throat and it's hard to breathe </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm not a dr. but that DOES sound like a panic attack. It's okay to admit that that happens sometimes. Don't be ashamed, it's not your fault. Just talk to your dr. about it. I had that happen to me at least once before seeing my dr.

Icouldnotaskformore
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> 6. Diarrhea almost every day when my nerves get frazzled over my thoughts of my WH and
his A. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It happens to me like that too. It just takes one little thought - then WHAM!

m01069
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Yes, I had all the same symptoms as you all.

Anti-D's put me on the right track again.

Although I have some bad moments, all in all they have saved my sanity.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I think my Anti-D's have kicked in and really started helping me too.

All,
Is anyone in individual counseling? Involved in or go to church? Turn to others and let them know your situation and that you need their prayers and support. You don't have to give them details, just be vague - marriage problems. This has helped me tremendously. Fill your world with loving, caring people and better yourself.

I do see an IC which helps some (though he is not Biblically-based in his counseling, so I have to weigh some of what he says with my beliefs.)

As for church, I go every week, and for a long time only my pastors knew what was up with my M and my WH. My church consists of maybe 60 people or so, so is not very big and I know most everyone, though not very well. As time as gone by and a few more people have asked where WH is, I've opened up. I didn't at first because I wanted to protect him, if he came back, but I realized I need support, too. As of today, several people know, and I chatted and got hugs from 4 or 5 different women. It feels good to know that people care. I think my problem is that I've been so shorted on companionship and friendship over the year, and then this last 6 months has been devastating, that I could get an entire day's worth of hugs, and right now I'd still need more.

LL

I conseled with SH. I go to church with my kids. Wh never went to church with us. The church is too big, 400+poeple. I did not let any one know, but if they ask, I don't mind telling. I told some friends, the ones who can support and offer prayers.

I have all the symptoms, I loss to much weight, my goal now is to eat well and gain a little bit weight.

I'm also on the famous infidelity diet. :-(

1) Weight Loss
2) No appetite
3) Depressed/Sad feelings
4) Sometimes I have a burning feeling in my chest

Strangely, sometimes these feelings subside and I feel lots of joy. Just like BrokenHubby, I tell myself that I do not NEED my husband. I love him a lot and I would love to be with him in a loving good relationship.

The other day, I ran across a great poem that talked about a very painful break-up. The poet described those exact feelings that I was feeling and it felt good to read something like that. At the very end of the poem, she described how the winter finally faded into summer and one day she was sitting outside and someone walked by and a very handsome man smiled at her and then she knew that life would go on....

Whenever I feel doom coming over me, I try to read this poem.

Love
Kati

Kati,

What poem is that?

Fill us in or post it darling, I am very curious to read it.

BrokenHubby

I too had all these symptoms,lost 40 lbs, total obsession with the marriage etc etc etc. For me it lasted 1 1/2 years almost. Until like brokenhubby said I realized I didn't "really" need ws in my life. I could make it on my own and I would thrive. What a gift to myself. Although I do believe you have to work through the process before you realize it. Of course when this revalation occured I gained back some of the weight which was the only good thing about the A, and now have to lose it again but for me this time. The thing I'm most sorry for it I lost precious time with my children because I was so lost in myself.
I still have moments(sometimes much longer lol) were I have those same feelings. Like today when H said he couldn't make our C appt on friday for something I think is trivial and then said he did not know we had one although he was by my side when we made it and both said o.k. only a few days ago. I had to realize I was going to those yucky feeling place and went through the process. 1. O.k. if he doesn't make it its his problem not mine 2. I always have a choice whether I want to stay or not 3. this is part of what real marriage is, we won't always agree on everything, then I told him calmly that it was his choice but he did know about it and it made me feel bad etc etc. I took power of me instead of giving him control and he said your right I'll call C and see if we can change it to another time that day. ahhh it felt so good to be me.
km4

Hi BH,

I post the website here, but unfortunately it is written in German language. I could try to translate, but I'm probably not very good at it.

Kati

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by BrokenHubby:
<strong> Kati,

What poem is that?

Fill us in or post it darling, I am very curious to read it.

BrokenHubby </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">