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#473287 04/03/04 09:05 PM
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It's been awhile since I have posted anything and thought I would give a update. SO here goes.I told WH to not call me or come to our house and I would not call or come to his brothers' house where he is staying. This worked well for a week and then he came over, said he needed somrthing and I gave it to him. I made him stay outside while I got it. I did go out and ask him if he was still seeing her he said nobut I didn't believe it and told him again that I didn't want him coming over to my house.
Two days later he saw me in a store and came over to talk to me. I had been to counseling one time and asked if he would go because he said he wanted our marriagr to work out he told me yes he would. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> so of course i was happy.
The very next day he took off and we didn't see him till the next day.He said he just started driving and ended up in Florida.Turned around and came back.Was by himself the whole time ,said he needed to think. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> no I don't believe that.I believe he was with her the whole time.
The next day he went to counseling with me and it went well <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> again it made me feel good,gave me hope.then two days later we went again and it went well again <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> so I thought he was really meaning that he wanted us to work out.He even came over that night and stayed for 4 hours and we watched TV and talked. said he would see me the next day.
The next day he came by to get a paper for his doctor and said he would call me when he got back.well he never called and no one has seen him for two days. He text message our oldest D and said to tell mommma(me) that he was okay. I know that he is with her I'm not stupid! I have decided that when he does return that I will not call him and when he calls me that I will tell him that I am through.I will not share my husband with anyone! so to go back to her.
I am confused as to why he did what he did. Why did he go to the counselor and lead me on just to hurt me. I can't take it any more and don't want to for that matter I just need to be strong. Yes I do love him and want things to work but not the way it is going now.
If there is any advise out there I would appreceiate it. I will be waiting to hear from you.

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I guess that is the normal acts of WS. I have no idea at all. But hang in here to wait till the experts.

#473289 04/03/04 09:24 PM
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lostnhurt- telling him that i am done is the right thing isn't it? He can't hurt me unless i allow him to and I need to show him that he can't hurt me anymore. Does his actions mean he is still in the FOG?

#473290 04/03/04 09:34 PM
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ll,

Read (or re-read) the Plan A principles on the main page. I would suggest focusing on that. No love busters! Plan A!

Good Luck,
Ethan


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