My WW moved out Jan. 26, '04. Contact with her has mostly been hostile (from both directions) until last week when I asked her if we could call a truce. We had a fairly long talk 2 days ago at a neutral site at my request. I started out by apologizing to her for one particullarly nasty outburst on my part which she said she understood because of the way she blindsided me.
Then I apologized to her for not meeting her ENs and made sure she understood I am taking responsibility for that much of our problems. She said she was sorry if she hurt me. We touched on her and OM some, I did not say, muchless demand,that she end her relationship. I made it quite clear that I want us to work things out and pointed out some personal changes that I have made since seperation- like taking medication for deprtession which she has tried to get me to do for quite some time. She says she just doesn't see that happening, things have been too bad for too long and she can't take it anymore. Still things ended on a fairly happy note with us hugging each other. She told mne she wants me to be happy and I told her to give me a chance.
Now I have seen some places here where people say you should not discuss relationship while in Plan A. I understood Plan A to be where you point out how you can meet the WS's ENs better than the OP with out making demands that contact with the OP stop. How does it work?
Also I have seen Plan A letters mentioned to be sent to WS's family. Where are the guidelines for that?
Plan A is difficult for me as I know she will spend the night with OM tonight while I have the kids and she and OM have a vacation planned for July, a couple of weeks before DV-Day is scheduled. I'm running out of time.

Jeff, go back to GQII. You will get a lot more answers there.

Thanks LNH. Its there.