my ww has told me she is willing to work on the M & i can see some changes. the way she tells me she loves me,calling me more on her way home.

the problem i'm having is (it's been almost two weeks sence the talk) she still sleeping on the sofa. i know it will take some time to come back together but this is hard. i don't want a roommate i want my W,my lover,the woman who gave me the greatest gift,not only 2 wonderful boys,but the woman that loves me for me.

she also told me that OM moved on to a better job. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> O'YEA!!!!! when i got her to tell me why she was in a bad mood she started crying. she apologized for crying over this in front of me. i told her that i felt bad that it bothered her so much,i huged her & told her that i'm hear for her & love her very much. hopefuly this will help her get over the withdrals,fog and get back to us.

thank goodness for MB it's helping me so much with the info and a place to bable.

thanks all. dmb1967

Now is the time for patience. Check out the reading here about WS going through withdrawal. Have you done the emotional needs questionnaire together yet? It would be good to meet her needs right now.

Has she sent NC letter to OM? That is a must.

You will get her back to the marriage faster by having some patience, and going slowly. Spend at least 15 hours a week together, doing things that are pleasant.

Women like affection that does NOT (are you paying attention?) lead to SF. Try backrubs, rub her feet, etc. But let her make the first move.

i have Dr H's "surviving an affair" book. i'm thru about half of it.

ww has told me it's good that i found help for myself but dosen't want me to bring things to her. she said she will work on it her way.

she had started on ENQ but has yet to finish. i found it in her work folder when i was looking for things(havn't done that for over a the middle of april and won't any more)the ENQ was about half done. nothing special but i'm trying to do what i saw.

thanks for the advice and beleve me i'll keep coming back not only becouse of you but evry one that is helping.

dmb1967

Keep reading and posting here. At first WS's are not usually into working on the marriage, but you can turn that around.

Stay the course for awhile and see what happens.