ww has been having hard time sleeping,up&down moods& at times withdrawn. this withdraw stuff is hard on us both.

last night she couldn't sleep. i found her on the sofa in the dark smoking,all i could see was the glow. i asked her what was wrong she said she was thinking of our problems. i sat with her & rubbed her back for a while. i finaly said i wish i could help her but i don't know what to say or do she said she didn't either. but i hugged her & gave her a kiss & whint to bed after a while.

i'm trying to hang in becouse i know what we have is well worth it.

o well i'll get out of hear now.

talk later. it helps to just bable <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

dmb1967,

You are doing fine. However you have to learn what ENs that OM is fillin and if you learn how to replace it.

Sometime AD is helpfull.

-rh-

RH,om is thankfuly gone. i beleive that it was the undivided atention.

we have two boy and endless activetys.

now we are starting to have money problems. going to try debet consolidation. hope it will releve some pressures.

dmb1967.

dmb1967,

2 big issues that you have in your M and I was facing with it too ...

1. Children Activities. Nowdays we put pressure on our kids to do ballet, soccer, gymn, swimming, taps and tutoring (math/english) on top of school. IN THE EXPENSE OF the family time. This is wrong. I did cut down on all of them since we were struggeling just to keep up with the bill, we stayed with bared minimum ... tutoring, ballet & roller skating. It gave us time to breath.

Suggestion ... ask your kids to select what sport that they want to do if only one of them they allow to do it. Mine choose RollerSkating and we had been to National Championship for 4 straight years <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . ask other parent to help out !. It takes a village to raise kids. Exchange favors to pick up/drop off and build your network of support !.

2. Debt consolidation. I didn't do it fast enough and was the major sore in the demise of my M.

Suggestion ... Get financial conseling and get real. If you don't change your life styles you will be in the same position and worst 1 year from now.

I was spending about $1.5K a months just for their activities not to mention their mom had to run like a chicken w/o head.

You know ... kids would be happy with you no matter where they are. In the local neighborhood park or in Disney Land, the different is $$$. Be with them and create kodak moment in their life ...

-rh-

RH,yes the boys only have one thing each. the oldest(13) has marial arts the youngest(5)has T-ball.

this weekend we started the ball rolling on debt consolidation,do more this week.

friday night i had a big suprise,she asked if it would be ok for her to sleep in the bed. nothing special but i feel that at least she is back in bed,for two nights now.

i don't think she would go for AD's but that will have to be her idea.

saterday we spent the afternoon with freinds,swiming and sunning,din't get home till 2am. the boys wer totaly wiped out we all sleped till about 10am it was nice.

today we spent the day outside. the oldest boy washed our trucks,becouse he is in truble he used a kick he learned in tae kwon do to brake a window after he got in an argument with a student. his princapal said he couldn't beleave my son broke the window,said that the window has been hit with all cinds of things and never has broke. at least he didn't hit the other kid. we have to pay for the window just what we need. that is why the boy is doing all kinds of extra stuff this summer.