Well I finally found out the truth. Yes, was definatly still seeing her, and yes still is. I talked to his Mom last night. She told me he even brought her to Thanksgiving dinner and said they were "just friends". Two weeks ago she was at his parents house and they wanted to go upstairs to watch movies. His Dad said he didnt feel comfortable with that as she is married too. He flew off the handle and yelled that he couldnt wait to get the hell out and well they said there is the door if you want to leave. He did and even pushed him Mom in front of OW. I called him 2 days later not even knowing he was kicked out and he flew off the handle at me.

I called him last night to see how he was. Of course he called me back and he called this morning before work. He doesn't know I talked to his Mom at all. I finally know the truth and knew it all along. I posted before that he is bipolar and not on his meds anymore either.

I miss him and love him and want him to be happy. I know I called him to see if he was ok but I don't want to be his doormat anymore or the person that he runs to as a safety net either.

Thank his parents for supporting your marriage. These days so many relatives do not.

That is true.

I talked to him a few time yesterday. I told him that I just want to know the truth. I know I might be crazy, but I still love this man. How could I still love him after all of this??? I mean anyone in their right mind would never want to get back or save this marriage. Even his Mom told me if I took him back she would hunt me down and beat me in the head.

I can't for the life of me figure out why it would even enter my mind to take him back.

I can't for the life of me figure out why it would even enter my mind to take him back.
"I still love this man."

yes that is true but I also know that sometimes love just isn't enough, right?

True.
But you didn't ask "if" or "why" you should take him back. You asked simply, "why it would even enter my mind to take him back."

<small>[ May 19, 2004, 12:49 PM: Message edited by: Chris -CA123 ]</small>

yeah I guess you are right <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I guess I question how I could still love someone that would do this to me. I know he is going through alot of pain himself but he brought it all on himself. I haven't done much reading about the fog until now I realize that maybe he is/was in the fog. Guess I need to find some info on that.