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Sudden Plan B after a year...scared about what's next.
#473871 05/20/04 04:45 PM
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Well, found out this morning that the WW has been seeing another guy on the side. Almost one year after her 1st affair. Told her to move out and she has....whew what a morning.

Once again, by all outside appearances, we've been doing much better, I had no clue that she was dissatisfied with any portion of our marriage, and she has expressed this to me as early as this morning....

Right now I'm kinda wondering where this goes, we've gone through the ENs, spending a lot of time together, not LBing etc. I cut out my Mountain Rescue activities, cut out the 2 hour workouts in the evenings, and have changed jobs to make more time for us, which she has said was working. Right now I'm more confused than hurt....

Anyone have any helpful tips on the next step?

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Re: Sudden Plan B after a year...scared about what's next.
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Told her to move out and she has....whew what a morning
That's not Plan B. That's just you kicking her out.
Re: Sudden Plan B after a year...scared about what's next.
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Ok, well, I'm an [censored]...

any constructive ideas?

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Re: Sudden Plan B after a year...scared about what's next.
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We are all asses at some time or another <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> .

Have you read "Surviving An Affair" by Dr Willard Harley?

Read the links below.
And if/when you speak with her, be nice. No anger & no name calling.
Re: Sudden Plan B after a year...scared about what's next.
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Yup, got it (the book that is) I actually think the thing has been opened so much the spine is pretty much toast <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> ...guess I probably overreacted to another explicit email barrage between my wife and yet another guy.

Looks like at least tonight I'll have some extra time to read... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

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Re: Sudden Plan B after a year...scared about what's next.
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If you have done a solid Plan A, might be time for Plan B. Let her see what life is like without you. In the meantime, you will have the detachment and peace to look at your marriage and yourself.

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