What’s the deal here?

The sitch so far: Mediation is in one month. W and I are on good speaking terms. OM is writing 2-5 a day and on phone 3+hrs and is beginning to pressure her. W hates phone communication and has expressed weariness with the long distance nature of R. Called former best friend last night and cried for hour stating that she is lonely and doesn’t know what to do. Doesn’t like that said friend talks with me and is supportive. Also said that she thinks I’m brainwashing her and others. Our friend (bless her) told her the truth: I have never said anything negative about her, nor has she heard that I’ve done so with others.

W is Very suspicious of my daytime whereabouts and nightime phone/internet activities (I’m still on leave). Every day shares more about what she’s doing (she’s opening her medical practice on Monday 6-28-04, which happens to be our 13th wedding anniversary) Asked me to come by today and bring things she left at home.

Is there something else I should/could be doing while the bubble is beginning to burst? I intend to let her know very soon that I will not actively participate in the divorce (see thread:Should I Explain Why I'm Fighting D?) It seems the pressure is getting to her. Is this a good time or bad for new action?

I read your letter. What actions are possible?

I wouild caution against reading too much into what W says, either postively or negatively.

What emotional needs can you work to fulfill?

Have you read 180 Degree Divorce Busters?

Have you read the Love Diet? 3 moves per day.
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<small>[ June 28, 2004, 08:50 PM: Message edited by: Whaler ]</small>

bmp

The steady wind bends the tree. Continue on course, NO LB's, and be not only the ROCK for her (sure and steady), but also the safe harbor.

The only addition you might make are subtle deposits in her LB$. Nothing flashy like roses or jewelry, no elegance. Something that ONLY YOU know would please her, that would express your love for her. Her favorite candy bar left on the counter, a book she said she'd like to read, a gift certificate for having her nails or hair done, you get the idea.

And remember, patience, patience, patience!!

SD