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#474479 12/05/04 06:18 AM
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My WW told me she was having an emotional and physical affair two months ago. Since then both of us have lost at least 15+ pounds and couldn't look at each other without crying/yelling/or throwing up.
She asked me to leave because she couldn't handle looking at me. I did. But I kept returning and things went no where. She's told me she's slept with the OM twice since she told me. Recently, I decided to move back in before she could say no. I told her I wanted to see my stepson. I told my WW that I can't stop her from leaving me but she's not taking my stepson out of my life.
After some more arguing, and finally some civil talking, I got her to say that she wanted a divorce. I knew she wanted to tell me that for a while but she couldn't say. After She finally saide the D-word she cried uncontrollably, and then I cried. I then had to go to work (I work overnights which was a big contributer to our problems)and while at work she called me crying some more and said, "I just needed to hear your voice."
when I returned we talked some more and cried some more, but we were the most open with each other then we've ever been.
In fact at one point she said, "This is the most comfortable I've felt around you in a long time."
That night we went to a play. (I bought the tix well before all this.) We had a good time and though she seemed at edge, I did get to kiss her, and she did kiss back, a little bit. (That's a first in a long time.)
I've stopped being demanding and argumenative with her about the situation and I think I might be showing her it's not the end for us.
Is she really remembering that I'm her HUSBAND and she loves me? or am I just fooling my self and refusing to see the inevitable?

#474480 12/05/04 02:28 PM
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Welcome to marriagebuilders. It is a great place to be under the circumstances.

Start in Plan A. You can read all about it on the link in my signature line. Your situation seems very hopeful to me.

Don't move out, let her move if she has to.

Also you might want to post on general questions as weekends are very slow, and there is more traffic there. Hang in there, we will help you through this.


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