Here's a question that has been rolling round and round my brain lately. Rather than obsess and become anxious about it any more, I figured I'd simply ask those who know best - all of you. I have not seen my H (except for a split-second accidental driveby), or spoken with my H in seven months. He sends a one-sentence email to confirm when he's coming to see the dogs once a week. I am always gone during his visits. For those of you who haven't read my other posts, my H is living with another W and her 3 kids. She had a H, who moved out and she has now divorced. My H and I are legally separated and I'm bracing myself for word that he's seeking a D shortly so he can marry her. She's very manic, has major spending problems, and exhibits very inappropriate behavior in public. That's it in a nutshell. Having not had contact for seven months now, I'm almost afraid that it makes it too easy to forget what he's walked away from. He left, what he referred to, as his dream home and dream marriage (obviously it wasn't based on his actions, but he never let me in on his change of mind). Can the n/c thing actually make it easier on the betraying spouse to simply walk away and not look back? I'm having a case of nerves and would love to hear any thoughts/ideas you may have. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Getting_Stronger:
<strong>Can the n/c thing actually make it easier on the betraying spouse to simply walk away and not look back? I'm having a case of nerves and would love to hear any thoughts/ideas you may have. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes, that is the purpose of Plan B. However you are having contact w/ WH way less than most people in plan B.

I would suggest you to create the life you wanted ... w/o your WH. Let WH deals with OW's spending and drama.

-rh-