I am confused about something.

I gave Plan B letter. Was working...as in I am in much better peace. Then my WH filed...now he sees the need to talk about the conditions of divorce. It is hard to talk AND go dark. I am unclear whether this is his way to get to me.

I have been good about staying dark until this past week. My MIL (my mediator, who lives with me...don't ask!) has been in the hospital...so no consistant mediator during this last week. He keeps wanting to bring up "issues." They do appear to be important, although he has very little to say the two times that we have tried to "discuss important family business, ie finances and custody"...Tina says "HUH?"

So I told him last talk that he had made chooses that lead us to where we are. We had made all the important decisions that need to be made. Everything else needed to be put in writing through his lawyer. I am trying to make this a civil process for DD, however, I have felt worse this last week during the period of intermittent contact than I have in a long time. Plan B is working for me...I have alot more work to do, but I feel very close to God and am working on other relationships based in my relationship with Christ, as well as on myself.

So how does one partner (me, BS) do plan B while other partner (WH) is focusing on plan D. Very different goals in these two plans.

Bring on any suggestions. Maybe I should post this to general questions.