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All righty then. Thinking of sending some flowers and a card. How's it sound? Too much?<P>They'd be going to wankboys parents house. It's the only address she gave me.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>
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Chris:<P>I'd suggest just a sweet and simple card. Sending the flowers, especially to wankboys parents house, may be interpretted as trying to make her feel guilty or as an attempt to embarrass her with his parents. I know that wouldn't be your intention but I'd bet that's how she'd see it.<P>Happy anniversary.
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...make sure you address the card "To my wife, <I>(your W's name here)</I>, from her loving husband, <I>(your name here)</I>.<P>Just so everybody is reminded of who's who and what's what!<P>------------------<BR>~~ Elixir ~~<P>
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At this point, do what you want.<P>I think flowers would be nice...better than sending a stripper, anyway. <P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13
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My 25th anniversary is coming up Feb. 1. Wife and I just seperated after discovery of her affair with her boss just before Thanksgiving. You can bet I'll be sending lots of flowers on that day just to remind everybody who's married to whom. Stay strong.<BR> Gale
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You're one heck-of-a husband !<BR>Do what is going to make YOU feel you've done the right thing and it is something that makes YOU feel good about who you are !<P>You continue to amaze me !<BR>-Tina
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I think flowers would be nice. I agree that she needs to remember who her husband is and whose wife she is. Hang in there, Chris. It has to be tough...<BR>Sara
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Well, I hjust called Dr Harley on the radio show. He said I should even be talking to her, let alone sending her anything.<P>Says, "I can't really do Plan A, 'cause she isn't here." Well, that's true, but I feel good enough to talk & write occasionaly. He did say if I was to see her again, I would be a mess for 2-3 days. Boy was he right!<P>Anyway, I'll just send a card & talk to Steve H in a few weeks. Dr H knows what's going on from the 15 seconds I talked to him and Steve H. knows the whole story.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>
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Chris:<P>Remember, in Plan A, you meet your wife's needs the way SHE wants them to be met.<P>If you think she'd like the flowers, then send them. If you think that they'll piss her off then don't. My gut says to send the card, and leave it at that. And seeing that you've already sent several cards to her already (any response???), you might even want to forego that.
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(((((chris)))))<BR>If the flowers go to wankboy's parents, I would pass on those. But a very sweet kind thing to think of.
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C'mon k. I wouldn't do something just to piss her off now, would I? ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/wink.gif) <P>No I haven't heard from her since we were at the funeral. She hasn't said anything about the cards. She tried to call the last week & has left a dozen messages. We haven't been home so...<P>Just a card it is then.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>
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Yep... Yep... Yep...<P>Stick with the card...<P>I've seen too many of my roses... given away, thrown out of the car... trashed in the grabage can... etc.<BR>to know... it isn't worth it!<P>Yes, your situation is different...<BR>but, it sounds like your W wouldn't appreciate them right now or in the future...<P>But... like <B>K</B> says... only <B>you</B> know what is a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3400_lovebust.html" TARGET=_blank>Love Buster</A>! (as defined by your W)<P>Jim
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Whoops! I meant he said I SHOULDN’T be talking to her as in Plan B.
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Chris,<P>What eklse did he tell you?? Did you just ask about the anniversay stuff or anything else?<P>By the way, Happy anniversary to one half of a perfect couple! <P>Desiree<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>
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He seems to think that when the affair dies out, she’s very likely gonna come back to haunt me like the couple in the book SAA. Get me out of the house, keep the kids, etc. NOT something I wanted to hear.<P>But he says he is never amazed at things that are said & happen before, during & after an affair. If you think it is impossible and no way something could happen, better put on your seat belt.<P>Again, he said I shouldn’t be communicating with her at all.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>
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HI Chris,<BR> I know this is a tough day for you. My 14th was tough for me. I'll pray for you tonight. FRANK
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Mine was Nov 6th..H did callme and ask me out, but he is still seeing her and I am in Plan B. My response was " I would love to be with you on this and many more anniversaries, but until your affair is over, I must not have any communication with you". Have not heard a word since....it was a hard day for me, spent it with my 16 yr old daughter, who was very supportive. Chris, you are a very special person, I have followed your story for many months. I will be thinking about you!<P>------------------<BR>Susan<P><BR>
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Happy Anniversary. You can still celebrate with your kids, without your wife. Make sure you have some fun.<P>I agree with the Harleys; a strict Plan B is in order. I suggested this some time back. From your own statements it is clear the interactions with her are draining your love for her. Send the letter. Good luck with all you are going through.<P>BTW, did you resolve the potential move to Greenland yet?
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