Get out. Get out. Get out.<P>Go somewhere and reflect. Most of the people on the site can't help as you are dealing with somehting that goes beyond the experience of most of us. She is a web spinner. There is no reality at this time. What strikes me is her running up to the house and slamming the door to cast him badly when she was with him. <P><BR>Get out. Go and think.<P> Max out any cards. Call on famiily or friends or aquaintences. (The last are amazing-sometimes the peole you hardly know are willing and are just what you need.)<P>But get out. Get away. Think.<P>No contact with her for three weeks.<BR>And even after you'll have a hard time because she is VERY good at what she does. Which is illusion. You and the boys appear to to be wisps of smoke to her. Go and think.<P>Melissa