Hello all, the D is going through. I got a rough draft of the final decree and made one change.<P>The change was this: No members of the oppisite sex shall stay over night while the children are present untill Marriage.<P>Dont think she didn't blow up at this. WOW WHAT A FIGHT. I asked her if she wanted me to have women in the house while the kids were there, She said NO. I said I respect that and you should show me the same.<P>Her newest man stayed with her and the kids at one of our friends house New Years night.<P>I also told her that I was not going to pay more than the court orderd amount of support. WOW WHAT A FIGHT. She said fine then we will move to the streets, cause thats were we will end up. I said. " YOU WANTED THIS NOT ME". She said a lot more than just this.<P>Well this is just an update. MY YEAR IS STARTING OFF GREAT HOW ABOUT YALLS...LOL<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<P>

brownphdt,<P>I have a judgment this Friday on a "notice of motion" my wife filed... <B>for my kids having overnights with OM</B>... damn it!!!<P>The judgment is to have "oral arguments"... so I will be there... maybe she and OM will too!<P>I knew we were having somethings in common.<P>I'm praying your's goes through...<P>I got the same response from my kids... I asked what they thought of dad(me) even dating... big-time-><B>NO WAY!</B>...<P>I'll post later asking for prayers...<P><B>You know</B> you have mine!!!!! <P>Jim<p>[This message has been edited by NSR (edited January 03, 2000).]

sorry to hear that.....It looks like I am going to be the same boas you soon <P>amanda<P>------------------<BR>I will love my husband "Always & Forever" <BR>thevancefamily@hotmail.com<P><BR>

Hey, brownphd,<P>I am PROUD of you!!!!! You are doing a good job here of not letting her get everything. She is getting the divorce SHE wants. Well, that comes with consequences, and if having less money that she was used to is one of those consequences...then TOUGH!!!! She should have stayed married!!!<P>Wishing you the best...<P>Roll Me Away<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

I have given up on trying to be nice. If I have never love busted I for sure did tonight. Here whole deal with this D is MONEY< MORE F$%KING MONEY. <P>She said she made changes in the decree and would not tell me. I dont have an atty. cause I cant afford one. I said that she didn't want to get sh#$y about this cause I could. She said how. I said" what kind of mother uses an abortin for a form of birth control. WOW she was pissed. I dont care any more.<P>I just want wats best for my boys, she is a good mother, but Damn, she is so mean.<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<P>

I am so sorry to hear about all of this. I am in the same boat. The big D will be final real soon. He has been a real rats [censored]. He is the betrayer...I just simplied loved him. I was a good wife and mother. I guess it was an affair and MLC all in one. He is so confused...which makes me confused also. I hurt for myself, the girls, and him. With him trying to take the kids from me I am going to have to lovebust. And I am at the point that I don't care. I have sat and let him say, do, and have everything.....but I will not give up the girls. He just wants them because then he would get the house. He told them today that if the custody evaluator agrees with him...he will take them until their mom gets better from her mental illness and when she can afford you guys. F##K YOU!!!!! How dare he say that to them. Who does he think he is? Obviously some kind of stud that thinks of himself first and everyone else last. The girls started to cry...they told him they didn't want to live with him....he stated to them tuff S##T if I want you I get you. Where is that wonderful caring man I used to know?<BR>Nancy

Paul,<P>I understand exactly where you're at.<P>As far as my divorce... all I get is what you're getting....<P>money, Money, and more MONEY!<P>Is this what they need to keep that "fanasty world" going... isn't "love" enough?<P>Prayers for you...<BR>I hope you're getting legal advice from some legal service... you know you need it!<P>The best to you my friend...<P>Jim

I defer to NSR<BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>The basic unit on the face of the earth is "the family", not the individual! Poisoning that basic unit has to stop.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>It never stops amazing me how self-delusional people can get.<P>Brown, I admire your moxy.<BR>You went to the mat for your marriage, and your W/never removed her head from her @ss.<P>I'm with RMA TOUGH!! You reap what you sow!!<P>Dr.H doesn't say bend over and grab your ancles if it doesn't work out. He simply says if you follow his principles you will better handle divorce if it comes to that.<P>I wouldn't budge an inch.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>