I have been a silent observer ever since I found this forum.My husband of 12 years is having an affair with a woman who lives abroad.He met her while having dinner with friends on a trip last Feburary.I found out in October.It was obvious something was not normal in his behaviour and I had that sinking feeling.He denied it the first time I confronted him,yet it was only a matter of time when one night I walked in on him talking on his mobile phone at midnight.He confessed that yes there was another woman and he is in love with her.He also says he is in love with me and does not want us to break up.He has asked me to put a rein on my sorrow and pain until he can find the willpower to end it.<BR>As she lives overseas ,each trip he takes would mean he is seeing her.Since discovery he has been away once and I am sure his trip included seeing her.My question is that My husband is saying to me that he is not prepared to give her up yet,and that he needs time to "go through"this.How do I refrain from lovebusting as I bid him farewell to go to her and receive him with love and kisses when he returns from being with her??I'm trying to be patient and strong,yet I feel my life is just a countdown to the day he'll go to her again.

nabliqad,<P>I wish there was an eay answer, there isn't. Do you have <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6070_sa.html" TARGET=_blank>"Surviving An Affair"(SAA)</A> by Dr. Willard Harley, I believe it is a must. If you've been lurking here for sometime you probably know this.<P>How familiar are you w/Dr. H's principles?<P>Let us get to know you and your situation better. It will help us give you better ideas on how to deal with this.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>