Well...it's been awhile since I posted anything...Thanksgiving, I think. I thought everything would be over and done with by the new year and that her affair would be over with and that we could move on to rebuilding our marriage.<P>Unfortunately, that hasn't happened, although she has made it clear now that she intends to end it with him, she was talking to her girlfriend and she used the subject phrase above to talk about another man she had seen.<P>Her girlfriend, who has been married for 1.5 years...I already know is having an affair and is encouraging my wife to "open her mind" and do the same and more.<P>So, I have an appointment with an attorney to finally file for a divorce. I have run out my string. <P>However, if anyone knows the meaning of that phrase "checking out his dial"...I would like to know what it means.<P>Thanks all

John--<P>I can't remember which movie, a high school flick...something similar to that was said about "his/her dial." The response back was "You know, like the yellow pages? Let your fingers do the walking."<P>I'm sorry to hear things haven't progressed well. <P>Laura

{{{{{{{{{{<B>john1960</B>}}}}}}}}}},<P>I'm really sorry for the turn of events!<P>I just wonder if this girlfriend is my W!!!<P>My W (about 6 months into her affair) was trying to convince one of her chat friends to start putting away money for "her day"... it is sickening!<P>Some legal advice... I <B>hate</B> divorces but your situation crys out for at least some protection...<BR>If you need to <B>protect</B> yourself legally (and/or financially)... I usually make the recommendation of finding a <B>good</B> attorney. A good place to start off is at the <A HREF="http://lawyers.martindale.com/marhub/form/by.html" TARGET=_blank>Martindale-Hubbell Lawyer Search</A> site. Do a search within your county... look for only "family law" specialists(>80% in divorce/custody/etc.)... make sure they do a lot of "family law committee work"... if they know the judges all the better... You can normally find a few that will give initial counselling free of charge.<P>I don't remember... are there children involved... If there are reply, and I'll post another site you could check out!<P>Divorce s***s...<BR>Anyway to avoid this?...<BR>Would you consider a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A>... it'll give you a diffusing time!<BR>Something to think about!<P>JIm

Jim,<P>Yes. There is my six year old daughter who is daddy's girl. She is very smart and has figured out on her own that mommy had a boyfriend that is not daddy...and she is mad at mommy about it...and I never said or did anything to make her aware of it. She overhears my wife's conversations with her boyfriend and she knows it's not dad