Well I called the lawyer and they took all my info for the filing of divorce.....i have to to get support for my kids....cant live on 200.00 from H....<P>I also called the red cross for advice and they advised to call base legal.....called the base by me and the base where my H is and I have a appt on saturday......then...<P>Well I called his cheif and asked what I was entitled to and he said all of the housing money, well thwn we got to talking and i said that the ow had brought my H dowm on thanksgiving, his b-day and she is today.....he seemed surprised......<P>well it comes to find out that my H & ow told him that they were not going to purseu a relationship and just leave it at what it was "friends"......i said well he is lying and that she has to be a really good friend to put at the very least 2200 miles on her car....<P>i told him that we are going to talk on thursday and he is going to call me on friday to see what was decided and he is going to talk to both of them on monday and he said he is going to be a little more stern.....<P>I am sure i will get a call on monday....but I might no I really dont know.....i am sure he will be mad at me though.....<P>But i still love him and am in love with him....i just dont like him and what he is doing now....<P>------------------<BR>I will love my husband "Always & Forever" <BR>thevancefamily@hotmail.com<P><BR>

avance, she is in the military also?! I am gathering this since cmdr knows her. <BR>Good that you are taking care of the kids. I am sorry it has to be harsh, but KIDS ARE FIRST!!!!<BR>(((hugs))) cl

yes she is military.....they work together and she is married....I think she had filed but i dont think it is final yet and we(me and H) are STILL married....<P>amanda<P>------------------<BR>I will love my husband "Always & Forever" <BR>thevancefamily@hotmail.com<P><BR>

Good for you Amanda, CL is right you need to look out for you and your kids. He's played enough games, time for reality.<P>(Boy would I like to be a fly on the wall when thier Chief has at'em hehe )<P>Keep us posted, be strong we're there for you<P>Jason<P>

You are entitled to the BAH (housing money) while you two are still married. Depending on his rank, the amount will vary. I know you said your husband is in the navy. Mine is in the Marines. From my understanding, the entire military is strict on infedelity. They can get there rank taken away from them and would have to start completely over, or depending on the circumstances they could get court marshalled (thrown out). So if I was you I'd be careful about talking to his chief or any other person of the military about the specifics of why you guys are seperated. Because if his rank gets taken, then the less money you will recieve for housing. And if he gets kicked out, it'll be worse. the military DOES NOT care about the family as they so proclaim. When you go to base legal, I'd suggest saying that you guys are parting because of irreconcillable differences. You need every dime you can get right now for you and your children. And also if he gets in trouble, though he well deserves it, not only will it hurt you BOTH financially, but ofcourse he will see this as a lovebuster and be upset with you. Amanda, I hope everything starts to look up for you. You don't deserve to be treated like this. Do what you have to do to make sure that your children and you are taken care of, but like I said before, if people don't need to know the specifics, I wouldn't tell them, especially the military. Try to do all your venting to your close friends and also here. I am here if you ever need to talk. You know that. ANd you are always in my prayers! Take care.....<P>------------------<BR>"If you can learn from the mistakes of others, you won't have to make them youself."<P>

thanks everyone for your support.....we will see how it goes on thursday....my fingers are crossed but i am not holding my breath...<P>amanda<P>------------------<BR>I will love my husband "Always & Forever" <BR>thevancefamily@hotmail.com<P><BR>