I dont mean to lead you around the board. However I have posted my story on prayer request, under THANKS TO ALL!!!!!!!<BR>God Bless you All!!!!!

I can not thank you all enough. My husband and I are trying so hard. It is a prayer answered. I had just decided I was telling him about my affair, wheter it was gonna make us or break us. By the grace of GOD. It made us. I dont think I have ever felt this close to him. No the withdrawal is getting a little rough, especially when I am on the road by myself. I wonder how his marriage is going and etc. I want to call him abd say you guys need to visit Marriage Builders forum. But I knowo I cant cause that will be contact. How do I get over the OM? I will not allow him to destroy my marriage. <BR>I have heard all about plan A. What is Plan A and how do I get info on it. what about Plan B? I wish you the best. Ill keep you all in my prayers. And thsnk yo so much for the help that you have given me. It is so amzing to me that God sent me to this forum. I just typed in affairs on the engine and MB came up. GOD IS SO AMAZING!!!!! <BR>Miracles never cease do they?<BR>GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!!!

inamess,<P>Here's the quick link to <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A and Plan B</A>!<P>You really don't need any of <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B</A>... if you're starting off with a recovery your spouses wants too. Stick with <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>!<P>As far a getting over the OM...<BR>you may or may not need to thing of using the <B>extraordinary precautions</B> to guarantee separation...<BR><OL TYPE=1> <BR><LI> Changing jobs and relocating (Situation dependent)<BR><LI> Blocking all communication (phone, e-mail, pager, etc.)<BR><LI> Accounting for time<BR><LI> Accounting for money<BR><LI> Spending leisure time together<BR></OL><P>While you're in recovery... follow <B>Four rules to guide marital recovery</B><BR><OL TYPE=1> <BR><LI> <B>The Rule of Protection:</B> Avoid being the cause of your spouse's unhappiness.<BR><LI> <B>The Rule of Care:</B> Meet your spouse's most important <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3300_needs.html" TARGET=_blank>Emotional Needs</A>.<BR><LI> <B>The Rule of Time:</B> Take time to give your spouse undivided attention.<BR><LI> <B>The Rule of Honesty:</B> Be totally open and honest with your spouse.<BR></OL><P>It sounds great...<BR>I'm happy for you... <P>Now it's time to get to work...<P>Jim

Can the two of you take a week off?? He told me about two months ago. It was hard, but I honestly think the fact we spent so much time together helped immesurably. He cried on my shoulder during withdrawal. It hurt, but I really wanted my marriage; and I cried from the hurt he had caused me.<P>We went on a cruise (planned before he told me). We were probably the saddest people on the boat, but it really helped.<P>Have you sent a no contact letter? My h included a mention of the MB website in the letter, no contact since.

Schizzo,<BR>No I havent sent a no contact letter. I talked to my friend today and he told that the OM had asked him if he had heard from me and he told him yeah. My friend nows all about it and is aware that I am to have no contact with him at all. He said he wouldnt tell me anything else. That brought back alot of memories. I just want him to know about MB. I think it can help his marriage. He was a good guy. He was going through the same thing. <BR>How can I get a copy of the no contact letter and how can i send him a letter about MB? They are not online but his mother is. he is a lost person and needs to get in contact with GOD! I never want anything to do with him but, If I can help his marriage I would not feel to blame. Is this normal? <BR>Thanks so much for your help. How can I get a copy of the no contact letter.?<BR>I just called him and told that it was over and I told H. He said ok and he understaood and he would not ever bother me again. And he hasnt. THANK GOD!<BR>Today was the roughest day! I came down the parkway right about the time he was leaving work. I kept looking for his truck. I knew I couldnt do it so I went on.<BR>Thanks!