I just got off the phone with the om and we have both decided to stop this. He is a very nice guy and cares alot about me and my happiness and wants whats best for me and my h. I am sitting here crying as I type this. It is so hard, I care a lot about him. I can't tell my h. I just can't. It would kill him. I just want to try to work on rekindling the love we share in our early years of marriage. I guess I expect too much from him after being married for this long. So please pray for us.

Dear FoxyLady,<P>I read your profile and your request, and my heart goes out to you. It is hard to be in a marriage that makes you feel empty, but your OM is right, this needs to end. Because God can bless your marriage, and will not bless your relationship with OM. God can turn things around in your marriage, and you can have the marriage you've always wanted with your husband. But, the relationship with OM will never reap the blessings your marriage can. It is a shortlived pleasure, that will cause nothing but grief.<P>First of all, it is important that you become accountable to make sure there is no contact with OM. Usually telling your husband will help this, but if you aren't ready then you must devise a plan to end contact completely, no emails, nothing. Is there someone who you can count on for this?<P>And the other thing, as you've been reading HN/HN, is that you realize that your marriage can give you the feelings of love that you so desire - but there is a lot of work on your part. There are lots of things that you can do to make this happen, even if your husband never participates. Really. It isn't the theology that it "takes 2". It can begin with one. You.<P>I will pray for you:<P>Lord God, I know that you are a forgiving and loving God, and I know that you are saddened by the state in which FL's life has turned. Lord, she has asked for prayer, and so Lord I am asking on her behalf that you give her comfort and wisdom, and a motivation to work in her marriage and end contact with OM. Protect her mind with what is right, and help her to choose what is right over what feels good. Help her Lord, and comfort her, and never leave her side. Thank you for being a merciful God and loving and forgiving God. In Jesus Name, Amen

If you can, make an appt. with Steve or Jennifer Harley. They do it on the phone. Jenn helped my h tell me. It was very hard, but we are getting the fire back and the OW is out of it. I don't think he would have been able to totally break without me, and I don't see that the fire would be coming back without the total honesty.<P>I set up the appt. little knowing what was really going on with him. But he spoke with her for 2 hours, then sat down and told me in the best possible way. Jenn was then available to me to talk the next morning and assured me there was hope that we could recover and have a great marriage.

I just finished my post... after losing a court case...<BR>...was going to get off..<P>but... I saw your request for prayers...<BR>I can nvr turn down that kind of request...<BR>You have my prayers today...<P>I'll keep everyone in my prayers today...<BR>and I'll be including you too! <P>Jim