If you read my other post, you know that I am facing the fact that my husband is beginning to become honest, but the pain and realization that his integrity and character are yet another notch down, is so disappointing. <P>I am holding my tongue, doing the shut up and pray thing. I am so thankful that I get to go out of town today and won't be back until tomorrow night. I am so thankful that he left the house and went to work. <P>I am really realizing that I am still pretty angry, and I must not react I must control my behavior. I am really praying about this, but I really want to clobber him!<P>I told him he can just keep the money he's been stashing, and thanks for being honest. What is the difference anyways, because he would do it regardless of how I felt. So, if you can't beat 'em join 'em, but I just feel so down about it.<P>see you all tomorrow night or Sunday.<BR>God Bless, and hope we all have a nice weekend.<BR>tnt

Hi TNT,<P>Sorry you are having such a bad go of it.<P>I have a questions. Why are you in this relationship? What do you get out of it?

TNT<BR>This is how I try to think of things:<BR>The honesty increases the integrity.<BR>He can't undo what he has done but honesty is a sign that maybe he is getting real integrity for the first time in his life.<BR>My H had a very hard time dealing with the idea that he had "lost" his integrity when he slept with the bimbo.<BR>As far as I'm concerned he never had integrity till he learned the real meaning of honesty.<BR>take care!

Hi TNT -<P>I am sorry that you feel a little slippage with your mood....<P>I completely agree with what WS has said!!!! With honesty comes the growth of integrity!!!<P>I am glad that you can get away for a day.....hope it's to something fun and distracting!!!!!<P>HUGS,<P>Sheba

Connie,<BR>Keep your eye on the prize: Jesus. And remember that all things work toward good for those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose. I know it is hard because I too am struggling now. He keeps me on the right track with the scripture that I read daily. I owe that to my W. She purchased My Utmost for His Highest Devoitional Bible which gets me through the Bible in a year. He is always giving me that little tidbit that gives me the way out. Yours is being out of town tonight.<P>Hang in there! MONDO HUG!!!!!!!!!!!!<P>------------------<BR><B><I>God Bless,<BR>Rob</I></B><P><BR>

Hope your weekend is some good time off for you. <P>Please stay safe. You are a valuable person.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

I'm ready to go. Looking out the window as I type! Waiting for my ride and gonna get a break. yeah.<P>Okay, so the realization is that my husband pretended to have integrity and character, but he really didn't, and now maybe, just maybe is beginning to - actually getting the real thing?<P>Maybe this gives me a good note to leave home on... <P>see you all later. I'll keep hoping.<P>tnt

there have probably been many hidden things TNT... don't go there... look at the positive light and realize he confessed to you a deception... Boy, opening up and being honest is great!!!!!<P>My prayers are going your way... by the time you read this you'll be back from your "Day Off" and my prayer is that it brings fun and a refreshing that is needed in your life..<P>cozy

tnt -<P>Thanks for your response to my post, it really helps to have understanding, and I think that can only come from othet in the middle of it.<P>Have a good refreshing time away!<P>jt

Connie,<P>I'm praying for you dear. You have a good head and heart. Your moving forward and so is husband. It may be only baby steps for him but, it is a start.<P>I'm sorry your down and understand all too well.<P>I hope your weekend goes great.<P>------------------<BR>God bless you and all of us.<P>Samantha<P>

TNT,<P>This is a big move for your H - honesty. It signals that he IS growing some. Maybe he has a lot more to do in other areas, but do not overlook the forward progression here.<P>Everyone of us is human and has faults. I am sure everyone here has not been 100% truthful and displayed 100% integrity their ENTIRE life, without some little slipups here and there. We can only aim to see our failings and resolve to do better. So, your H is finally embracing honesty and resolving to do better -telling you about the money even though it hurt you to hear.<P>One small blessing here...Praying for many, many more!<P>Have a fun night off!! <P>Roll Me Away<BR><P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>