Just an update:<BR>I am feeling better and so are the kids. I am no longer lovebusting and my husband and I are getting along very well. It's been better for us ever since the left the place of employment. It was really bad for them to <BR>be working together, I now know that she was a bad influence on him because he used to come home to me always in a bad mood and basically ignoring me...right after he had spent time with her...he now calls me at work all the time...asks me how/what I am doing....how is my day going...etc...He is being really wonderful...(I just don't know if/when/how he talks to her...I have no proof that he does...he asked me to stop lovebusting two weeks ago because he told me I have no proof he is doing anything wrong....and he swears he isn't) I want to believe him....I feel better if I believe him....I love him and I know he loves me and the kids....I love to sleep next to him....he hugs me all night....he now kisses me (never did that when she was around)....I know that she was as much to blame as he was....the daily contact was very damaging....and....even if there are phone calls today....she just doesn't have the opportunity she used to have to turn him against me.....people think I am crazy when I say that the main reason I stayed with him is because I love him.....even after all he did to me.....all the pain he put me through....all I can say is that if the love is real and if there is any love left inside of him....it will work out....in many ways, this ugly episode brought him back to me and this is the way I want it....

Go girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!<BR> [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img] [img]http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif[/img]