okay guys<BR>H and I done the EM questionare and we discussed it only to endup in a confrontation. His #1 EM is Physical Attractiveness. He loves short bolnde hair. I am 5'7" 170 lbs. and have natural red hair. It was very short. I use to keep it short because that was the way he liked it. I hated it then. I told him I am trying to get my self esttem back and I didnt feel that I was attractive with it. He wants me to lose a few punds and work out with him. I said ok great, I will do that. I want to do that for myself anyway. But the hair thing use to drive me crazy! He took advatage of it when I let him tell me how to wear it. My hair isnt long now. but he likes it shaved up the back. Im trying to let it grow out! WHY DOES HE ALWAYS WANT TO CHENGE ME???????<BR>WHY CANT HE LOVE THE PERSON THAT HE FELL IN LOVE WITH THE WAY SHE REALLY IS?<BR>I know you guys may think this is silly! THis has always had an affect on how he loves on me and so on. <P>I want to make him happy. But, I hate myself in short blonde hair. I told him that I would color it blonde just to comprimise. HELP!!!!!!!!!<P>What do I do so I make him happy and like myself at the same time?<P>

Maybe you 2 should look at (<B>togther</B>) <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3500_policy.html" TARGET=_blank>The Policy of Joint Agreement(POJA)</A>...<P>This makes you recognize that you are still equal partners... working through recovery!<P>Jim